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If I move out, does difficult child "win"?
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 160818" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Well, in my opinion the priority isn't who "won." </p><p>You have an 11 year old son, who has a lot of problems. He could possibly be on the spectrum and is not a typical child and may not respond to normal therapy...is he getting any sort of help in school or the community?</p><p>Although he sounds like a very difficult child, I don't think that getting into a power struggle with him is helpful. If you can't handle it anymore and think husband can better take care of him, then you have the choice of leaving. I wouldn't think twice about the "winning" issue. This child in my opinion is not trying to drive you out--he is an atypical child and he's the loser no matter what you do because nobody seems able to figure him out or to help him. Although I understand why you are angry at husband, I also understand his compassion for the child and perhaps his disbelief that the therapists advice is useful. If my therapist had told me to cure my son of lighting matches by lighting 500, I don't think I would have done it. In fact, I would have probably thought that the therapist was loony. Some kids, with issues like your son, are fascinated with fire and I would have wanted to know why and to get more useful help than doing that. It sounds like the therapist is thinking he does everything out of defiance and I could be wrong, but I don't agree with that at all and lighting all those matches in my opinion could be dangerous.</p><p>Whatever you do, in my opinion don't make it a power struggle between you and your boy. in my opinion again, this little guy needs more evaluating and more help than he is getting. I would take him to a different neuropsychologist. Sometimes it takes more than one, and more than one evaluation before you get a good picture of what is wrong. Whatever you decide to do, good luck.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 160818, member: 1550"] Well, in my opinion the priority isn't who "won." You have an 11 year old son, who has a lot of problems. He could possibly be on the spectrum and is not a typical child and may not respond to normal therapy...is he getting any sort of help in school or the community? Although he sounds like a very difficult child, I don't think that getting into a power struggle with him is helpful. If you can't handle it anymore and think husband can better take care of him, then you have the choice of leaving. I wouldn't think twice about the "winning" issue. This child in my opinion is not trying to drive you out--he is an atypical child and he's the loser no matter what you do because nobody seems able to figure him out or to help him. Although I understand why you are angry at husband, I also understand his compassion for the child and perhaps his disbelief that the therapists advice is useful. If my therapist had told me to cure my son of lighting matches by lighting 500, I don't think I would have done it. In fact, I would have probably thought that the therapist was loony. Some kids, with issues like your son, are fascinated with fire and I would have wanted to know why and to get more useful help than doing that. It sounds like the therapist is thinking he does everything out of defiance and I could be wrong, but I don't agree with that at all and lighting all those matches in my opinion could be dangerous. Whatever you do, in my opinion don't make it a power struggle between you and your boy. in my opinion again, this little guy needs more evaluating and more help than he is getting. I would take him to a different neuropsychologist. Sometimes it takes more than one, and more than one evaluation before you get a good picture of what is wrong. Whatever you decide to do, good luck. [/QUOTE]
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