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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 438580" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>I will say this - The GCOC? (rolls eyes) We filled out a two page survey on what we felt a good match would be for Dude, as far as what we thought were things that he liked to do, his interests, his activitiy level, and his dislikes. Then we had to write out about a page or so of what we felt would be a good match. Younger, older, Grandpa type, middle age - hip, urban - you get the idea. Did we feel that it would be in Dude's best interest and did he relate better in our opinion to a person of his own color....which we were laughing at because to know our kids - was to know the white kid? Thought he was black and the black kid? Thought he was white. So no - it didn't matter. </p><p></p><p>We did all this work and they may as well have thrown it in the trash can. THAT was the part that jerked me around. Because (and keep in mind I was a large woman) They had a pool of people to pick from - because this was a high paying job, lots of applicants to choose from, and their choice? A 400lb older white man, that pulled up in a car older than mine, with his foster/soon to be adopted child that had more issues that Dude!! Okay so I can get over the fact that he was poor - we're not rich either. I've never judged a book by it's cover and the weight thing would NOT have been an issue except - The top THREE things that Dude wanted to do when he went out with a mentor? Ride a bike, Rollerskate, and either go fishing or play tennis. First thing this guy does is yell at his son - then he answers EVERY question WE asked the little boy as if he wasn't allowed to speak. Then he tells Dude - he'll be spending a LOT of time with this kid - playing video games at their house. Dude said something ugly, got on his bike and left. DF was in the house - came out to the patio and was like - "The man was touching that little boy like a pervert!" </p><p></p><p>So we called GCOC - and said "NO!" - Well they acted like this man was the BOMB for mentors and we should be thankful. I said -"Do you have any idea about the kid he had with him, and how he's parenting THAT child? NO --if that kid grows up anywhere NEAR normal? I"ll kiss you on the hood of your car on Main street and give you 20 minutes to draw a crowd." ----So they said they had ONE other - ONE? Really ----and we drive downtown to meet the equivalent of "HUGGY BEAR" from Starsky and Hutch - and when I say Huggy Bear - I mean 30 years later.....Silk shirt, alligator shoes, polyester pants.....and talking SMACK and JIVE trying to be "All Street" --and the kids were giggling so badly I had to get the caseworker to take them out of the office -and Dude was SUPPOSED to be getting to know him - and he was literally rolling on the ground laughing and said "YA'LL ARE KIDDING RIGHT" then the other one would pulll his pants up to his arm pits and walk like a pimp and talk smack - I mean even the secretary was trying her best not to laugh. So we said NO to that one too. It was like they were TRYING to peave us off. </p><p></p><p>Then we finally got this young Af-Am man - about 26 - and he was AWEEEEEEESOME! Came to the house - took Dude skating, biking - basketball - rollerblading - and this went on for MONTHS - and in those months? Dude would come home those days and it was like - he had gone out with his big brother - The GCOC gave him an expense account - and they would go to the mall - get a few things for DUde have lunch - and it was wonderful. We gave them money too - and he always gave us receipts. VERY COOL - until the guy started having problems with his girlfriend and was taking Dude to see his girlfriend and it wasn't that we found out about it and he left Dude - it all kinda happened at the same time - He put in a notice, told Dude he was sorry - told US he was sorry - never really told us what he had done - Dude did - about going to the ghetto and all - which hey - had you told me where my kid was - but it was done - and arguing with your baby momma while you are being paid to do something else - NOT cool. </p><p></p><p>We never got another mentor after that --but it really did give us a good break - and it helped Dude too - because they talked about how to treat family. (and then the baby momma yelling started lol ) and I'm not sure HOW that equated into treating family but....again - I think it can help.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 438580, member: 4964"] I will say this - The GCOC? (rolls eyes) We filled out a two page survey on what we felt a good match would be for Dude, as far as what we thought were things that he liked to do, his interests, his activitiy level, and his dislikes. Then we had to write out about a page or so of what we felt would be a good match. Younger, older, Grandpa type, middle age - hip, urban - you get the idea. Did we feel that it would be in Dude's best interest and did he relate better in our opinion to a person of his own color....which we were laughing at because to know our kids - was to know the white kid? Thought he was black and the black kid? Thought he was white. So no - it didn't matter. We did all this work and they may as well have thrown it in the trash can. THAT was the part that jerked me around. Because (and keep in mind I was a large woman) They had a pool of people to pick from - because this was a high paying job, lots of applicants to choose from, and their choice? A 400lb older white man, that pulled up in a car older than mine, with his foster/soon to be adopted child that had more issues that Dude!! Okay so I can get over the fact that he was poor - we're not rich either. I've never judged a book by it's cover and the weight thing would NOT have been an issue except - The top THREE things that Dude wanted to do when he went out with a mentor? Ride a bike, Rollerskate, and either go fishing or play tennis. First thing this guy does is yell at his son - then he answers EVERY question WE asked the little boy as if he wasn't allowed to speak. Then he tells Dude - he'll be spending a LOT of time with this kid - playing video games at their house. Dude said something ugly, got on his bike and left. DF was in the house - came out to the patio and was like - "The man was touching that little boy like a pervert!" So we called GCOC - and said "NO!" - Well they acted like this man was the BOMB for mentors and we should be thankful. I said -"Do you have any idea about the kid he had with him, and how he's parenting THAT child? NO --if that kid grows up anywhere NEAR normal? I"ll kiss you on the hood of your car on Main street and give you 20 minutes to draw a crowd." ----So they said they had ONE other - ONE? Really ----and we drive downtown to meet the equivalent of "HUGGY BEAR" from Starsky and Hutch - and when I say Huggy Bear - I mean 30 years later.....Silk shirt, alligator shoes, polyester pants.....and talking SMACK and JIVE trying to be "All Street" --and the kids were giggling so badly I had to get the caseworker to take them out of the office -and Dude was SUPPOSED to be getting to know him - and he was literally rolling on the ground laughing and said "YA'LL ARE KIDDING RIGHT" then the other one would pulll his pants up to his arm pits and walk like a pimp and talk smack - I mean even the secretary was trying her best not to laugh. So we said NO to that one too. It was like they were TRYING to peave us off. Then we finally got this young Af-Am man - about 26 - and he was AWEEEEEEESOME! Came to the house - took Dude skating, biking - basketball - rollerblading - and this went on for MONTHS - and in those months? Dude would come home those days and it was like - he had gone out with his big brother - The GCOC gave him an expense account - and they would go to the mall - get a few things for DUde have lunch - and it was wonderful. We gave them money too - and he always gave us receipts. VERY COOL - until the guy started having problems with his girlfriend and was taking Dude to see his girlfriend and it wasn't that we found out about it and he left Dude - it all kinda happened at the same time - He put in a notice, told Dude he was sorry - told US he was sorry - never really told us what he had done - Dude did - about going to the ghetto and all - which hey - had you told me where my kid was - but it was done - and arguing with your baby momma while you are being paid to do something else - NOT cool. We never got another mentor after that --but it really did give us a good break - and it helped Dude too - because they talked about how to treat family. (and then the baby momma yelling started lol ) and I'm not sure HOW that equated into treating family but....again - I think it can help. [/QUOTE]
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