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If only my skin were thicker
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<blockquote data-quote="Big Bad Kitty" data-source="post: 116725" data-attributes="member: 3647"><p>Oh it is so hard. It takes practice, truly, like anything else in life!</p><p></p><p>It may sound corny, but write it out. Write out how you would like to react to him. Seeing things in black and white do two things. One, you see exactly what you are dealing with. Two, writing any problem out immediately takes away some of its power.</p><p></p><p>Count to 10 backwards in your head. Think of a waterfall, or a meadow, or a garden, whatever brings you to a happy place when you feel your anger start to rise. It is just words. And he directs them at you because he feels the safest with you.</p><p></p><p>Yes, you are supposed to get some strange feeling of joy from that.</p><p></p><p>And walk away. He is old enough to carry on. Go outside. Go in your room. One of our board members made the garage her safe haven. Take a drive, if it is safe. </p><p></p><p>He won't know what to do, at first. When he catches on that you MEAN it, eventually, it will fade. He may do 2 steps forward 1 step back. Do not falter. Do NOT let him see you react. Yep, "sit on your lips".</p><p></p><p>Come vent on here ALL you want. That is why we are here.</p><p></p><p>HUGS</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Big Bad Kitty, post: 116725, member: 3647"] Oh it is so hard. It takes practice, truly, like anything else in life! It may sound corny, but write it out. Write out how you would like to react to him. Seeing things in black and white do two things. One, you see exactly what you are dealing with. Two, writing any problem out immediately takes away some of its power. Count to 10 backwards in your head. Think of a waterfall, or a meadow, or a garden, whatever brings you to a happy place when you feel your anger start to rise. It is just words. And he directs them at you because he feels the safest with you. Yes, you are supposed to get some strange feeling of joy from that. And walk away. He is old enough to carry on. Go outside. Go in your room. One of our board members made the garage her safe haven. Take a drive, if it is safe. He won't know what to do, at first. When he catches on that you MEAN it, eventually, it will fade. He may do 2 steps forward 1 step back. Do not falter. Do NOT let him see you react. Yep, "sit on your lips". Come vent on here ALL you want. That is why we are here. HUGS [/QUOTE]
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