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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 86378" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>I feel a lot of regret for the way things have been for my family. I feel guilt for the placement of my difficult child very rarely. I feel much guilt that we did not see how violent he was toward the other kids much sooner. Once I did see it I had to move heaven and earth to get husband on board and the rest of hte family too.</p><p></p><p>Once we sent him to a residential psychiatric hospital. 4 month stay, took a HUGE toll on me. I drove 1 1/2 hours each way to see him a minimum of 2x each week, often 3 or 4 x. We could never do phone therapy or combine therapy and treatment meetings. So I drove.</p><p></p><p>I regret the sheer unmitigated H that Jess went through. </p><p></p><p>I hate that I had to call the Sheriff on my son to keep myself and my other children safe from a 13yo. </p><p></p><p>He is almost 16. We have a cursory relationship. It will be what it is when he is older. My parents chose to take him, otherwise the courts would have taken him as a danger to the rest of us.</p><p></p><p>We tried every therapy we could find, and invented some new ones. I regret that NOTHING worked. I regret that I took his abuse for as long as I did. </p><p></p><p></p><p>I hate the missed holidays, snuggling, mom things. I love that I have a peaceful house with a son and daughter who are not constantly afraid.</p><p></p><p>There is sadness, but also joy. My son knows I will fight for him if he truly needs it, but that I will also keep a healthy boundary between safe behavior and other behavior.</p><p></p><p>Hugs,</p><p></p><p>Susie</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 86378, member: 1233"] I feel a lot of regret for the way things have been for my family. I feel guilt for the placement of my difficult child very rarely. I feel much guilt that we did not see how violent he was toward the other kids much sooner. Once I did see it I had to move heaven and earth to get husband on board and the rest of hte family too. Once we sent him to a residential psychiatric hospital. 4 month stay, took a HUGE toll on me. I drove 1 1/2 hours each way to see him a minimum of 2x each week, often 3 or 4 x. We could never do phone therapy or combine therapy and treatment meetings. So I drove. I regret the sheer unmitigated H that Jess went through. I hate that I had to call the Sheriff on my son to keep myself and my other children safe from a 13yo. He is almost 16. We have a cursory relationship. It will be what it is when he is older. My parents chose to take him, otherwise the courts would have taken him as a danger to the rest of us. We tried every therapy we could find, and invented some new ones. I regret that NOTHING worked. I regret that I took his abuse for as long as I did. I hate the missed holidays, snuggling, mom things. I love that I have a peaceful house with a son and daughter who are not constantly afraid. There is sadness, but also joy. My son knows I will fight for him if he truly needs it, but that I will also keep a healthy boundary between safe behavior and other behavior. Hugs, Susie [/QUOTE]
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