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<blockquote data-quote="Hanging-On" data-source="post: 95345" data-attributes="member: 2325"><p>Just got back from a 3 hour meeting with BMS. I had calmed down enough to put everything out on the table. Plus the new director came into our meeting, and he was AWESOME. He could relate, answer things in a way I understood, didn't drag out his sentences (like some of our therapist-which drives me crazy, I just want to pull out the point from their mouth.....ahhh). So thanks to him we got alot accomplished. The one thing that I almost rolled my eyes on was the fact that the 4.5hrs per week day difficult child is there with his BMS he is NOT on a routine????????? WHAT???</p><p></p><p>Routine has been driven down my throat for years, and THEY aren't even following that? So I told them to make a routine in 15-30 minute time slots so that difficult child knows exactly what is going to happen 2 steps from this point. AND to build in contingency steps just in case the tv is broken, it's raining outside, etc. so that he knows if this doesn't happen, then that will.</p><p></p><p>OMG, I mean, why am "I" telling THEM how to structure his day?????? No wonder he's having a hard time there. Geesh. </p><p></p><p>Well the new director was right with me and agreeing, and telling them to do what I'm telling them to do. He's also telling them that if difficult child is spinning, then the BMS provider has missed the trigger because difficult child is already self-regulating. (WHAT an EYE-OPENER for me). In that one sentence I understood a world of stuff.......why hasn't anyone else talked to me like that??? So I really pushed the issue. I think I will also make a point to have more conversations with this man, because in no time at all I understand something, and was calming down the second he came in. HUGE difference between trying to talk to these 20 something recent college grads who are going by the book. </p><p></p><p>Well tonight is homebase services and I already told them that the boys are grounded, so they will not be participating. So they can come or not, it's up to them.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hanging-On, post: 95345, member: 2325"] Just got back from a 3 hour meeting with BMS. I had calmed down enough to put everything out on the table. Plus the new director came into our meeting, and he was AWESOME. He could relate, answer things in a way I understood, didn't drag out his sentences (like some of our therapist-which drives me crazy, I just want to pull out the point from their mouth.....ahhh). So thanks to him we got alot accomplished. The one thing that I almost rolled my eyes on was the fact that the 4.5hrs per week day difficult child is there with his BMS he is NOT on a routine????????? WHAT??? Routine has been driven down my throat for years, and THEY aren't even following that? So I told them to make a routine in 15-30 minute time slots so that difficult child knows exactly what is going to happen 2 steps from this point. AND to build in contingency steps just in case the tv is broken, it's raining outside, etc. so that he knows if this doesn't happen, then that will. OMG, I mean, why am "I" telling THEM how to structure his day?????? No wonder he's having a hard time there. Geesh. Well the new director was right with me and agreeing, and telling them to do what I'm telling them to do. He's also telling them that if difficult child is spinning, then the BMS provider has missed the trigger because difficult child is already self-regulating. (WHAT an EYE-OPENER for me). In that one sentence I understood a world of stuff.......why hasn't anyone else talked to me like that??? So I really pushed the issue. I think I will also make a point to have more conversations with this man, because in no time at all I understand something, and was calming down the second he came in. HUGE difference between trying to talk to these 20 something recent college grads who are going by the book. Well tonight is homebase services and I already told them that the boys are grounded, so they will not be participating. So they can come or not, it's up to them. [/QUOTE]
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