rachelfran
New Member
I joined this list some time ago when I thought my son was ODD ... We never got a diagnosis and it wouldn't have mattered anyway...
He was in a CTT class for K & 1 and moved to a gen ed class for 2nd grade .. he gets Occupational Therapist (OT) & PT and had speech until it was decided that he didn't really need speech anymore and the time would be better used for counseling - as the reason the speech wasn't working was because he wasn't willing to work in the small group. The speech therapist thought he would be better served if counseling dealt with his difficulty working in a small group. That happened at the end of the school year and over the summer we moved to a new area and a new school.
At the new school - we are still waiting for the Occupational Therapist (OT) & PT to begin and he's met with the counselor and had one session with a small group. Max really has a hard time socially and will often sit out of projects in class where he is supposed to work with other kids. As he gets older this is becoming a bigger problem since classes often require this on occasion and it's graded.
Outside of school he sees a therapist for one on one counseling and a music therapist - which is really just for fun as it's a friend who sees him for free.. He enjoys it and it helps a little with self confidence.
Our big problem right now is behavior in class. This has been going on for a long time but it's worse now in this new school - which is very strict. He talks back to the teacher - when she announces that it's time for something new he almost always says - loudly - why do we have to do that? and i don't want to.. etc. He whines and complains about everything and if i try to promise him things for behaving correctly - he'll say things like - I don't think I can do that -- meaning he doesn't think he can behave well. I offered to buy him a game that he wants if he can come home with a good report three days in a row and his reply was that he didn't' think he'd be able to do that. He won't even just say that he will try.
In addition, the teacher tells me that on occasion Max refuses to participate in the lesson the rest of the class is doing. He acts bored or disinterested and will read a book while the teacher is teaching... I can't believe his audacity.
Fortunately, for the time being ... he's doing fine academically ... though as third grade gets harder I can't imagine this will be the case for long.
I'm a bit at my wits end. I seriously don't' know what to do about this ... I'm considering Karate as it may help his focus and discipline but I don't know if it really works. Never mind that I really don't have the money for that ... Added is the fact that my son doesn't enjoy physical activity at all - preferring to be on the computer or a video game. He doesn't want to take Karate - so I'd have to force him. I did speak with someone today at a local street fair from tiger schulman and they said they've had success with kids on the spectrum (not that my son is) and they have an assistant that works in the classes with special needs classes so they are used to dealing with some non traditional kids.
Any thoughts or similar situations out there? anything that works?
Thanks!
Rachel
He was in a CTT class for K & 1 and moved to a gen ed class for 2nd grade .. he gets Occupational Therapist (OT) & PT and had speech until it was decided that he didn't really need speech anymore and the time would be better used for counseling - as the reason the speech wasn't working was because he wasn't willing to work in the small group. The speech therapist thought he would be better served if counseling dealt with his difficulty working in a small group. That happened at the end of the school year and over the summer we moved to a new area and a new school.
At the new school - we are still waiting for the Occupational Therapist (OT) & PT to begin and he's met with the counselor and had one session with a small group. Max really has a hard time socially and will often sit out of projects in class where he is supposed to work with other kids. As he gets older this is becoming a bigger problem since classes often require this on occasion and it's graded.
Outside of school he sees a therapist for one on one counseling and a music therapist - which is really just for fun as it's a friend who sees him for free.. He enjoys it and it helps a little with self confidence.
Our big problem right now is behavior in class. This has been going on for a long time but it's worse now in this new school - which is very strict. He talks back to the teacher - when she announces that it's time for something new he almost always says - loudly - why do we have to do that? and i don't want to.. etc. He whines and complains about everything and if i try to promise him things for behaving correctly - he'll say things like - I don't think I can do that -- meaning he doesn't think he can behave well. I offered to buy him a game that he wants if he can come home with a good report three days in a row and his reply was that he didn't' think he'd be able to do that. He won't even just say that he will try.
In addition, the teacher tells me that on occasion Max refuses to participate in the lesson the rest of the class is doing. He acts bored or disinterested and will read a book while the teacher is teaching... I can't believe his audacity.
Fortunately, for the time being ... he's doing fine academically ... though as third grade gets harder I can't imagine this will be the case for long.
I'm a bit at my wits end. I seriously don't' know what to do about this ... I'm considering Karate as it may help his focus and discipline but I don't know if it really works. Never mind that I really don't have the money for that ... Added is the fact that my son doesn't enjoy physical activity at all - preferring to be on the computer or a video game. He doesn't want to take Karate - so I'd have to force him. I did speak with someone today at a local street fair from tiger schulman and they said they've had success with kids on the spectrum (not that my son is) and they have an assistant that works in the classes with special needs classes so they are used to dealing with some non traditional kids.
Any thoughts or similar situations out there? anything that works?
Thanks!
Rachel