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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 409263" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>Hey Bootsie! </p><p> </p><p>WHats shakin! </p><p> </p><p>WOW - It has not been a great three years for you has it? (like the goat on the aflack commercial says - nah, nah, nah) </p><p> </p><p>Except for the school, and Pell grant - and driving - this could be us. Oh with the foster care, and accusations. Yep. When Dude told the school I beat him up? It was almost laughable. I apparently burned his clothes, threw away his books, and punched him in the eye. You missed the reunion - but in boots I'm nearly 6' tall and I used to box - so when I showed up at the school? The resource office was rounding the corner with my son and I heard "We will get to the bottom of this assault son, and if your Mother punched you she will be going to jail." and I thought "MY word! Someones Mother punched their child in the what? How awful." and around the corner here comes MY son and a 4'11" police officer. I said "YOU??! You told her?! I punched YOU?" OMG I was livid. Then I laughed and said "Officer I used to box - if I hit him it would have knocked him out AND left a mark. I would never hit my son.' Then DF turned and looked at him and just shook his head. Officer said "He also said you threw away his books and burned his clothes." DF handed over the books in a book bag and said "These books? Your clothes are in the car." </p><p> </p><p>So yeah - been there done that - and what we did after foster care didn't work out? Well - we had a chance to throw him out on the streets - and said "Oh that's too harsh." I mean it would have meant living in the park or the mens shelter. So we sat down and drew up a contract, with our therapist as a mediator, everyone signed it. Life was great for about THREE HOURS. Then all hades blew loose and it was the DUDE SHOW. It was like a square dance being called - </p><p>Things were up </p><p>Things were down</p><p>Apologies Momma - all around....</p><p>I'll go out </p><p>You'll stay in </p><p>Then it will start all over again. </p><p> </p><p>So eventually? We put him on a bus and sent him where ever he wanted to go and claimed peace over our house. And the place? Well Ya kinda get tired of hearing about HOW they are going to go live with (Name anyone else but you) and how great it will be. So that's where he got the ticket to. Actually we got him a train ticket to see his biofather (yes my x satan) it was his one and only HEARTS DESIRE. He was back in three weeks - with a puppy, courtesy of my x's cousin's truck. Then that lasted - ohhhhh i dunno a month - and when the fit hit the shan - We got him one more train ticket - and said - HAVE A NICE LIFE - and meant it. </p><p> </p><p>The lessons have been hard. He's jumped felony probation - had 3 months left to do - and said )(#$)( - because daddy knew more than we did - three years probation down the toilet. THREE lousy months. Now he hates it there, wishes he had listened, Dad is a (can't say that language here), begs to come home - will even do jail time, (yeah right), and the answer is still NO. </p><p> </p><p>Personally? Putting him out was the best thing we ever did for him. He's grown up - he calls and is nice. He's realized a lot of things he never did before. He HAS to work - I'm unemployed and have no money to send. I mean - life is tough. </p><p> </p><p>I dont think no - I KNOW we could not do what we did before again. I'm getting an A+ in detachment. I'll help him anyway he needs help as long as I'm sure he's helping himself - but I want proof. </p><p> </p><p>No regrets. None. AND he's taking care of his dog better than he ever did. She's first, and he says she keeps him straight because she depends on him. Hows that for responsible. </p><p> </p><p>Hope you come to some revelations with your own kid. </p><p>DETACH DETACH DETACH. They really can fly if you throw them out of the nest. </p><p>Hugs - </p><p>Good to see you again, sorry under such bad news. </p><p>Star</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 409263, member: 4964"] Hey Bootsie! WHats shakin! WOW - It has not been a great three years for you has it? (like the goat on the aflack commercial says - nah, nah, nah) Except for the school, and Pell grant - and driving - this could be us. Oh with the foster care, and accusations. Yep. When Dude told the school I beat him up? It was almost laughable. I apparently burned his clothes, threw away his books, and punched him in the eye. You missed the reunion - but in boots I'm nearly 6' tall and I used to box - so when I showed up at the school? The resource office was rounding the corner with my son and I heard "We will get to the bottom of this assault son, and if your Mother punched you she will be going to jail." and I thought "MY word! Someones Mother punched their child in the what? How awful." and around the corner here comes MY son and a 4'11" police officer. I said "YOU??! You told her?! I punched YOU?" OMG I was livid. Then I laughed and said "Officer I used to box - if I hit him it would have knocked him out AND left a mark. I would never hit my son.' Then DF turned and looked at him and just shook his head. Officer said "He also said you threw away his books and burned his clothes." DF handed over the books in a book bag and said "These books? Your clothes are in the car." So yeah - been there done that - and what we did after foster care didn't work out? Well - we had a chance to throw him out on the streets - and said "Oh that's too harsh." I mean it would have meant living in the park or the mens shelter. So we sat down and drew up a contract, with our therapist as a mediator, everyone signed it. Life was great for about THREE HOURS. Then all hades blew loose and it was the DUDE SHOW. It was like a square dance being called - Things were up Things were down Apologies Momma - all around.... I'll go out You'll stay in Then it will start all over again. So eventually? We put him on a bus and sent him where ever he wanted to go and claimed peace over our house. And the place? Well Ya kinda get tired of hearing about HOW they are going to go live with (Name anyone else but you) and how great it will be. So that's where he got the ticket to. Actually we got him a train ticket to see his biofather (yes my x satan) it was his one and only HEARTS DESIRE. He was back in three weeks - with a puppy, courtesy of my x's cousin's truck. Then that lasted - ohhhhh i dunno a month - and when the fit hit the shan - We got him one more train ticket - and said - HAVE A NICE LIFE - and meant it. The lessons have been hard. He's jumped felony probation - had 3 months left to do - and said )(#$)( - because daddy knew more than we did - three years probation down the toilet. THREE lousy months. Now he hates it there, wishes he had listened, Dad is a (can't say that language here), begs to come home - will even do jail time, (yeah right), and the answer is still NO. Personally? Putting him out was the best thing we ever did for him. He's grown up - he calls and is nice. He's realized a lot of things he never did before. He HAS to work - I'm unemployed and have no money to send. I mean - life is tough. I dont think no - I KNOW we could not do what we did before again. I'm getting an A+ in detachment. I'll help him anyway he needs help as long as I'm sure he's helping himself - but I want proof. No regrets. None. AND he's taking care of his dog better than he ever did. She's first, and he says she keeps him straight because she depends on him. Hows that for responsible. Hope you come to some revelations with your own kid. DETACH DETACH DETACH. They really can fly if you throw them out of the nest. Hugs - Good to see you again, sorry under such bad news. Star [/QUOTE]
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