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I'm BACK !!!! Raising grandson who will soon be 5 and is a handful..
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<blockquote data-quote="mazdamama" data-source="post: 501681" data-attributes="member: 12227"><p>Hi...I wasn't here when you were here before but I am somewhere in the neighborhood of where you are now. I took custody of my two grandsons in 2002 and adopted them in 2004. They have lived in this home since the elder of the two boys was 10 wks old in 2000. Bio mom was seriously mentally ill and I wound up kicking her and my son out in 2002 when the boys were 9 mos and 18 mos and keeping the boys. There were many caregivers for that first year or so because the youngest of the boys had many medical problems and when he was in the hospital I had to leave the older one with sitters.</p><p></p><p>I can say a few things here though that may help. It is VERY hard to go from being a grandma that can spoil the child and send him home to one that your home is now his home. I can imagine how thrilled you were to get him out of foster care and I bet a bit of spoiling went on in your joy to have him with you. These little buggers remember everything deep in the resources of their minds. Now that he has gotten older you realize that you are basically his mother....he recalls the grandma spoiling him and thinks he can get away with things that a grandson can that if he was your actual child he would not.</p><p></p><p>He may indeed have some issues with Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) because of changes in caregivers but he also may be testing his limits between that grandma/mom status you find yourself in. Don't know if I am allowed to put this here but I do belong to another online support group (they sent me here for help) that is for grandparents raising grandchildren. The transition from being grandma to being mom a child is very hard. It is at <a href="http://www.grandsplace.org" target="_blank">GrandsPlace Grandparent Support Center For Kinship Care Givers</a> and all those there have been where you are. Good luck and God Bless you for keeping this little boy with family.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="mazdamama, post: 501681, member: 12227"] Hi...I wasn't here when you were here before but I am somewhere in the neighborhood of where you are now. I took custody of my two grandsons in 2002 and adopted them in 2004. They have lived in this home since the elder of the two boys was 10 wks old in 2000. Bio mom was seriously mentally ill and I wound up kicking her and my son out in 2002 when the boys were 9 mos and 18 mos and keeping the boys. There were many caregivers for that first year or so because the youngest of the boys had many medical problems and when he was in the hospital I had to leave the older one with sitters. I can say a few things here though that may help. It is VERY hard to go from being a grandma that can spoil the child and send him home to one that your home is now his home. I can imagine how thrilled you were to get him out of foster care and I bet a bit of spoiling went on in your joy to have him with you. These little buggers remember everything deep in the resources of their minds. Now that he has gotten older you realize that you are basically his mother....he recalls the grandma spoiling him and thinks he can get away with things that a grandson can that if he was your actual child he would not. He may indeed have some issues with Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) because of changes in caregivers but he also may be testing his limits between that grandma/mom status you find yourself in. Don't know if I am allowed to put this here but I do belong to another online support group (they sent me here for help) that is for grandparents raising grandchildren. The transition from being grandma to being mom a child is very hard. It is at [url=http://www.grandsplace.org]GrandsPlace Grandparent Support Center For Kinship Care Givers[/url] and all those there have been where you are. Good luck and God Bless you for keeping this little boy with family. [/QUOTE]
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