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<blockquote data-quote="escapedagain" data-source="post: 210518" data-attributes="member: 6257"><p>Boy do I know where you are coming from!!!!! My difficult child#1 .is 9 yrs. old, Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD)-not otherwise specified, ADHD, Mood disorder, Anxiety and MR (IQ is 67). My entire world revolves around him. I believe he thinks his 2 younger sibs are on their own and don't need me. </p><p> </p><p>He loves to go outside just not to leave home. He has a 4 wheeler and trampoline and we live on 10 acres. He wants to be out side all day long, but he wants me to be out doing what ever he is doing. He has terrible meltdowns. He throws himself on the ground and it all breaks loose. He takes Strattera, Depakote, Thorazine, and Tenex ( has been on a dozen or so others).</p><p> </p><p>OUr day starts with waking up to endless energy by him and my difficult child#2 (4 yr) he is usually so wound up he jumps on the sofa or bed until I put my hands on him and get him down. Then He usually torments his 2 younger sibs until I can get them to safer ground. Then I hold on to him and get him to take his medications.. This is usually a 10 minute job. He takes on pill at a time and pushes every button I have in between them.</p><p> </p><p>Then I just hold on and have a pepsi till the medications start working. Then I make his and the other kids breakfast. Getting him to sit still to eat it is something else. If I put him infront of the t.v. at the coffee table he does pretty good.</p><p> </p><p>Then because he cant handle public school (anxiety ) I try to home school him. I have found Time4Learning on the net and he likes it. It still is a trying experience every day though because he has to have one on one to stay of topic.</p><p> </p><p>When he is done schooling he goes straight outside. The only problem with that is he runs away. I have to be ontop of him every min.! When he stays inside due to weather it is a night mare! He has never entertained himself! He doesnt play with toys much or do anything for that mattter. The thing he is best at is tormenting everyone.</p><p> </p><p>I have to be very creative to keep him busy. And at least yours only bangs on the bathroom door, my difficult child broke the lock on ours during a meltdown and now it dont lock. So guess where he is when I'm in the bathroom.</p><p> </p><p>When we have to leave to go somewhere it is ww3. He has always hated to go places and used to get so upset he would throw-up.</p><p> </p><p>I'm really sorry I dont have any suggestions or ideas for you but I sure do know how you feel. I really thought I was the only one with a child like him.</p><p> My husband works 12 hours a day and is usually busy on his days off (I wounder why). I understand how good a little break is and how it can help.</p><p>Just getting difficult child to do anything is a fight. He has to be told a least 3 times and then I usually just take him by the arm and do it with him or stand over him until it gets done. I litterally don't get anything done on most days till my husband gets home (7pm). When I go to be I asleep before my head hits the pillow and already dreading my first and only wakeup call from difficult child in the morning because I know its all going to just start over.</p><p> </p><p>Some days I handle things better than others. Today is Sat. and I have just had to chase him outside to wrestle the 4 wheeler key from him because he tried to sneek off without a helmet again. The rule is no helmet no ride! He only gets one warning and then I get the key. Always easier said than done.</p><p>This morning He ran outside without shoes and socks. The baby is sick and I couldnt catch him before he got a good head start on me. He made it to the neighbors (his friend). Luckily they are getting to know us and the grandpa brought him back laughing. At least on of us could laugh.</p><p> </p><p>We have locks on every door and cabinet in the house and at night and on really bad days I have to lock the 2 way deadbolt from the inside! I wear a keyring around my neck 24 hours a day.<img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/faint.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":faint:" title="faint :faint:" data-shortname=":faint:" /><img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/felttip/whiteflag.png" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":whiteflag:" title="whiteflag :whiteflag:" data-shortname=":whiteflag:" /></p><p> </p><p>I dont know what else to do, so I just keep going and hang on the good moments. There are several if I just look for them. We adopted him and he has been with us since he was 5 weeks old. I figure God brought him to us and we named him a name that means "gift from God" so thats how we live our lives. I have notes all over my home that say : STAY CALM, BREATHE DEEP, HE LOVES, YOU HE WILL, GROW UP SOON, HE CANT HELP IT, HE DONT MEAN IT, HE IS A GREAT KID, LAUGH IT HELPs!</p><p> </p><p>So hang in there and know I am out here praying for and thinking about you. Just knowing you are there helps me, I hope I can help you.</p><p>Im sending hugs and fluffing you pillow for you.</p><p>connie</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="escapedagain, post: 210518, member: 6257"] Boy do I know where you are coming from!!!!! My difficult child#1 .is 9 yrs. old, Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD)-not otherwise specified, ADHD, Mood disorder, Anxiety and MR (IQ is 67). My entire world revolves around him. I believe he thinks his 2 younger sibs are on their own and don't need me. He loves to go outside just not to leave home. He has a 4 wheeler and trampoline and we live on 10 acres. He wants to be out side all day long, but he wants me to be out doing what ever he is doing. He has terrible meltdowns. He throws himself on the ground and it all breaks loose. He takes Strattera, Depakote, Thorazine, and Tenex ( has been on a dozen or so others). OUr day starts with waking up to endless energy by him and my difficult child#2 (4 yr) he is usually so wound up he jumps on the sofa or bed until I put my hands on him and get him down. Then He usually torments his 2 younger sibs until I can get them to safer ground. Then I hold on to him and get him to take his medications.. This is usually a 10 minute job. He takes on pill at a time and pushes every button I have in between them. Then I just hold on and have a pepsi till the medications start working. Then I make his and the other kids breakfast. Getting him to sit still to eat it is something else. If I put him infront of the t.v. at the coffee table he does pretty good. Then because he cant handle public school (anxiety ) I try to home school him. I have found Time4Learning on the net and he likes it. It still is a trying experience every day though because he has to have one on one to stay of topic. When he is done schooling he goes straight outside. The only problem with that is he runs away. I have to be ontop of him every min.! When he stays inside due to weather it is a night mare! He has never entertained himself! He doesnt play with toys much or do anything for that mattter. The thing he is best at is tormenting everyone. I have to be very creative to keep him busy. And at least yours only bangs on the bathroom door, my difficult child broke the lock on ours during a meltdown and now it dont lock. So guess where he is when I'm in the bathroom. When we have to leave to go somewhere it is ww3. He has always hated to go places and used to get so upset he would throw-up. I'm really sorry I dont have any suggestions or ideas for you but I sure do know how you feel. I really thought I was the only one with a child like him. My husband works 12 hours a day and is usually busy on his days off (I wounder why). I understand how good a little break is and how it can help. Just getting difficult child to do anything is a fight. He has to be told a least 3 times and then I usually just take him by the arm and do it with him or stand over him until it gets done. I litterally don't get anything done on most days till my husband gets home (7pm). When I go to be I asleep before my head hits the pillow and already dreading my first and only wakeup call from difficult child in the morning because I know its all going to just start over. Some days I handle things better than others. Today is Sat. and I have just had to chase him outside to wrestle the 4 wheeler key from him because he tried to sneek off without a helmet again. The rule is no helmet no ride! He only gets one warning and then I get the key. Always easier said than done. This morning He ran outside without shoes and socks. The baby is sick and I couldnt catch him before he got a good head start on me. He made it to the neighbors (his friend). Luckily they are getting to know us and the grandpa brought him back laughing. At least on of us could laugh. We have locks on every door and cabinet in the house and at night and on really bad days I have to lock the 2 way deadbolt from the inside! I wear a keyring around my neck 24 hours a day.:knockedout::whiteflag: I dont know what else to do, so I just keep going and hang on the good moments. There are several if I just look for them. We adopted him and he has been with us since he was 5 weeks old. I figure God brought him to us and we named him a name that means "gift from God" so thats how we live our lives. I have notes all over my home that say : STAY CALM, BREATHE DEEP, HE LOVES, YOU HE WILL, GROW UP SOON, HE CANT HELP IT, HE DONT MEAN IT, HE IS A GREAT KID, LAUGH IT HELPs! So hang in there and know I am out here praying for and thinking about you. Just knowing you are there helps me, I hope I can help you. Im sending hugs and fluffing you pillow for you. connie [/QUOTE]
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