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<blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 154433" data-attributes="member: 84"><p>Got interrupted.</p><p> </p><p>I stopped to try and talk with her a bit. Didn't do any good. She's being defensive and taking on the guilt.</p><p> </p><p>M23 it's not that I believe Nichole is guilt-free. She tolerates the behavior. And she doesn't walk away when boyfriend starts manipulating her into a reaction. I don't think she sees the manipulation at all. </p><p> </p><p>I'm so involved because Nichole lives here, and boyfriend keeps bringing me into it. 99 percent of the time I hang up on him. But I feel the need to answer the phone when he calls because I fear for Nichole and the baby. The rest is what I witness from the sidelines. And seeing what I do, I can only imagine what's going on otherwise.</p><p> </p><p>I also think the time has come for me to take sides. Although I don't like it. I want my kids to learn to handle their own relationships. But this one is way out of control. boyfriend was seriously off the deep end yesterday.</p><p> </p><p>I can no longer just sit by and watch this.</p><p> </p><p>I've come to some decisions this morning. While I can't control Nichole's decision when it comes to boyfriend, I can control what I will tolerate. And I've decided on <strong>zero</strong> tolderance. </p><p> </p><p>1. No transport to boyfriend's by any family member. I know even easy child will stand by this as she's as fed up as I am.</p><p> </p><p>2. boyfriend calls, or I see it happening here I call the police. No more playing around. No more leaving it up to them. Let the police sort it out. And this creates a paper trail for Nichole. If police feel Nichole is guilty and needs to go to jail then so be it, same for boyfriend.</p><p> </p><p>3. boyfriend is no longer allowed here. He can come pick up the baby for visitation. I will be nice and polite but he is not welcome in my home while treating my daughter like sh*t on his shoe.</p><p> </p><p>Does #3 sound unreasonable? </p><p> </p><p>That said......boyfriend just picked up her and the baby. sigh Aubrey didn't want to go at all. (gee I wouldn't either) I have a feeling I may be acting on # 2 today at some point.</p><p> </p><p>Thanks for the advice. I need it. If you have more keep it coming.</p><p> </p><p>Hugs</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hound dog, post: 154433, member: 84"] Got interrupted. I stopped to try and talk with her a bit. Didn't do any good. She's being defensive and taking on the guilt. M23 it's not that I believe Nichole is guilt-free. She tolerates the behavior. And she doesn't walk away when boyfriend starts manipulating her into a reaction. I don't think she sees the manipulation at all. I'm so involved because Nichole lives here, and boyfriend keeps bringing me into it. 99 percent of the time I hang up on him. But I feel the need to answer the phone when he calls because I fear for Nichole and the baby. The rest is what I witness from the sidelines. And seeing what I do, I can only imagine what's going on otherwise. I also think the time has come for me to take sides. Although I don't like it. I want my kids to learn to handle their own relationships. But this one is way out of control. boyfriend was seriously off the deep end yesterday. I can no longer just sit by and watch this. I've come to some decisions this morning. While I can't control Nichole's decision when it comes to boyfriend, I can control what I will tolerate. And I've decided on [B]zero[/B] tolderance. 1. No transport to boyfriend's by any family member. I know even easy child will stand by this as she's as fed up as I am. 2. boyfriend calls, or I see it happening here I call the police. No more playing around. No more leaving it up to them. Let the police sort it out. And this creates a paper trail for Nichole. If police feel Nichole is guilty and needs to go to jail then so be it, same for boyfriend. 3. boyfriend is no longer allowed here. He can come pick up the baby for visitation. I will be nice and polite but he is not welcome in my home while treating my daughter like sh*t on his shoe. Does #3 sound unreasonable? That said......boyfriend just picked up her and the baby. sigh Aubrey didn't want to go at all. (gee I wouldn't either) I have a feeling I may be acting on # 2 today at some point. Thanks for the advice. I need it. If you have more keep it coming. Hugs [/QUOTE]
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