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<blockquote data-quote="WhymeMom?" data-source="post: 162488" data-attributes="member: 53"><p>"A household camera will do nothing but cause trouble. Someone will lose it, fill it up, let the battery run down, not want to pay for the ink to print the pictures, drop it and consequently break it."</p><p>NVTS called this one correctly.....</p><p> </p><p>Your husband doesn't know how to "discuss" things. He pulls in other things and raises his voice because that's how he thinks he can "win" the discussion. Until he realizes that it isn't a matter of winning and you must make decisions together nobody wins. If you can get him to sit down and discuss this without distraction I would let him know that the family decisions should be made together. If he can't follow the rules then this is what I would do.......Any and all questions are directed to him.....Can I go over to so and so's house? Ask your dad....(dad not home? Call him, no answer? Then the answer is no). Dad will learn quickly he must give up some control and he will begin not answering his phone when kids call. Kids will complain they can't reach dad, so will get mad and complain, "Why can't you(mom) give me an answer?" So steel yourself against trying to take control and just say, "Your dad has the final say in these decisions and I won't make that decision without him." Your husband may pick up on this and start saying it himself, he won't make the decision without speaking to you. It provides a good answer for getting the other's opinion before just blurting out an answer. Not the best way to get the point across, but husband will eventually see that both of you need to be in the decision-making process. If he totally wants control of all decisions over kids he will have it. You may have to suffer through a period of stupid decisions, but in the long run he may learn the value of making decisions together. Hope you can find a solution to your combined decison making......thinking of you and your family.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="WhymeMom?, post: 162488, member: 53"] "A household camera will do nothing but cause trouble. Someone will lose it, fill it up, let the battery run down, not want to pay for the ink to print the pictures, drop it and consequently break it." NVTS called this one correctly..... Your husband doesn't know how to "discuss" things. He pulls in other things and raises his voice because that's how he thinks he can "win" the discussion. Until he realizes that it isn't a matter of winning and you must make decisions together nobody wins. If you can get him to sit down and discuss this without distraction I would let him know that the family decisions should be made together. If he can't follow the rules then this is what I would do.......Any and all questions are directed to him.....Can I go over to so and so's house? Ask your dad....(dad not home? Call him, no answer? Then the answer is no). Dad will learn quickly he must give up some control and he will begin not answering his phone when kids call. Kids will complain they can't reach dad, so will get mad and complain, "Why can't you(mom) give me an answer?" So steel yourself against trying to take control and just say, "Your dad has the final say in these decisions and I won't make that decision without him." Your husband may pick up on this and start saying it himself, he won't make the decision without speaking to you. It provides a good answer for getting the other's opinion before just blurting out an answer. Not the best way to get the point across, but husband will eventually see that both of you need to be in the decision-making process. If he totally wants control of all decisions over kids he will have it. You may have to suffer through a period of stupid decisions, but in the long run he may learn the value of making decisions together. Hope you can find a solution to your combined decison making......thinking of you and your family. [/QUOTE]
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