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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 163641" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>I'm coming in late to this one.</p><p></p><p>It does sound to me like husband is being controlling by arguing loudly within earshot of easy child. It is an issue which should have been sorted quietly. However, he probably didn't expect it to be a major issue, because he probably didn't see the easy child manipulation that you did.</p><p></p><p>However - we have two house cameras (currently functioning). husband & I get to say who can take them out of the house, but otherwise they can be grabbed and used by anyone, as long as they are put back. We have rechargeable batteries plus a charger, and the kids are supposed to put the used batteries on to charge when they change them over. It generally works for us. When we went on holidays, we took both cameras plus the batteries and charger, as well as husband's computer. Having digital cameras has saved us a lot of money in the family, because no longer are we spending money to develop photos, especially the kids' many photos, which may never get looked at again.</p><p></p><p>But if you have a kid who doesn't value things, who is likely to be careless and cavalier about it, then I understand your concerns.</p><p></p><p>Here is a compromise option:</p><p>let the new digital camera be husband's camera. That way, if there is any request to use it, it is husband who must be asked. If it is damaged, it is husband who has to be told (by the person who damaged it). It is husband they have to negotiate with, to sort out any problems.</p><p></p><p>And if there are no problems - then that is good. Maybe they are going to respect what he has bought, because they are more concerned about "keeping in good" with him. It is how kids think, unfortunately. It's OK to damage Mum's stuff because after she yells a bit, she will sort it out. But Dad is the one we snuggle up to when we want something, so we want to keep him happy with us.</p><p></p><p>As for a kid taking Mum's car after Dad said they weren't to drive - the kid may have chosen to interpret what Dad said as "Don't drive Dad's car" and again, taken Mum for granted by taking her car.</p><p></p><p>I wouldn't stand for that. if you don't find out until after the car has gone, you can deal with it when they get home and make it clear that you want them to give you the key, permanently, and they are not to have it again until you give permission AFTER they ask. I would also be pointing out that you would have been well within your rights to report your car as stolen, because that is technically what it was.</p><p></p><p>If any of our kids did that to husband's car, they would be permanently banned from driving it ever again. It is a really serious thing.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 163641, member: 1991"] I'm coming in late to this one. It does sound to me like husband is being controlling by arguing loudly within earshot of easy child. It is an issue which should have been sorted quietly. However, he probably didn't expect it to be a major issue, because he probably didn't see the easy child manipulation that you did. However - we have two house cameras (currently functioning). husband & I get to say who can take them out of the house, but otherwise they can be grabbed and used by anyone, as long as they are put back. We have rechargeable batteries plus a charger, and the kids are supposed to put the used batteries on to charge when they change them over. It generally works for us. When we went on holidays, we took both cameras plus the batteries and charger, as well as husband's computer. Having digital cameras has saved us a lot of money in the family, because no longer are we spending money to develop photos, especially the kids' many photos, which may never get looked at again. But if you have a kid who doesn't value things, who is likely to be careless and cavalier about it, then I understand your concerns. Here is a compromise option: let the new digital camera be husband's camera. That way, if there is any request to use it, it is husband who must be asked. If it is damaged, it is husband who has to be told (by the person who damaged it). It is husband they have to negotiate with, to sort out any problems. And if there are no problems - then that is good. Maybe they are going to respect what he has bought, because they are more concerned about "keeping in good" with him. It is how kids think, unfortunately. It's OK to damage Mum's stuff because after she yells a bit, she will sort it out. But Dad is the one we snuggle up to when we want something, so we want to keep him happy with us. As for a kid taking Mum's car after Dad said they weren't to drive - the kid may have chosen to interpret what Dad said as "Don't drive Dad's car" and again, taken Mum for granted by taking her car. I wouldn't stand for that. if you don't find out until after the car has gone, you can deal with it when they get home and make it clear that you want them to give you the key, permanently, and they are not to have it again until you give permission AFTER they ask. I would also be pointing out that you would have been well within your rights to report your car as stolen, because that is technically what it was. If any of our kids did that to husband's car, they would be permanently banned from driving it ever again. It is a really serious thing. Marg [/QUOTE]
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