ckay87
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I would do anything to meet someone who's been somewhere near where I am. I'll paint a picture with as few details as possible (don't want to be too boring!)
Son, 23, has been a HUGE handful since 16 at least. Out of control in school, he was constantly in trouble, truant, late, sent to alternative schools, and ultimately quit and got his GED. Did drugs, probably sold drugs, crashed cars. Eventually ended up doing a year in jail for several DUIs, the last of which he crashed my car, without a license.
He's out of jail for a year and has held 3 different jobs for less than a month each. One was seasonal and he was fired from the other 2.
He is a mess, he doesn't help and he doesn't pay a dime. While he doesn't seem to currently have a hard drug or alcohol issue, he drinks plenty of beer and does smoke pot. Inside. So my house smells like pot. He snuffs cigarettes out on the furniture..... this is my life.
I'm divorced and currently just live with him. But I've been dating my boyfriend for over 2 years and we made the decision to move in together. There is NO WAY my son can live with us. First, he has no driver's license (of course!) and we're moving into the country. I can hardly stand him, so I won't subject my boyfriend to him (even though they do get along in a friendly way). Not for 1 day. Boyfriend and I have a really great relationship, he's a good and decent man, and he is no stranger to grown son problems of his own. And I just said to myself.... I can't put my life, and decent opportunities, on hold for a son who is consistently going nowhere.
Anyway, my moving out was announced to my son months ago. I agreed I will help him financially - enough to be real, solid help but not enough to live on 100%. He had a place, a job, and 2 necessary roommates lined up, until recently. He's been fired again and is now down to only one potential roommate.
My move date is 2 months from now and it is written in stone. Without boring you with the details, a lot of people are relying on the arrangement (again, long story), and I just can't have my son live with us. I'm up every night because I already see the writing on the wall..... moving day will roll around for me, and he won't have a place or roommates, etc etc. He is doing very little about the situation now. This is not my first rodeo.
I can't back out, I need to be strong. He's done nothing to help, he's been disrespectful, gross and lazy. He may last minute scramble but....what do I do? I'm just beside myself.....
Son, 23, has been a HUGE handful since 16 at least. Out of control in school, he was constantly in trouble, truant, late, sent to alternative schools, and ultimately quit and got his GED. Did drugs, probably sold drugs, crashed cars. Eventually ended up doing a year in jail for several DUIs, the last of which he crashed my car, without a license.
He's out of jail for a year and has held 3 different jobs for less than a month each. One was seasonal and he was fired from the other 2.
He is a mess, he doesn't help and he doesn't pay a dime. While he doesn't seem to currently have a hard drug or alcohol issue, he drinks plenty of beer and does smoke pot. Inside. So my house smells like pot. He snuffs cigarettes out on the furniture..... this is my life.
I'm divorced and currently just live with him. But I've been dating my boyfriend for over 2 years and we made the decision to move in together. There is NO WAY my son can live with us. First, he has no driver's license (of course!) and we're moving into the country. I can hardly stand him, so I won't subject my boyfriend to him (even though they do get along in a friendly way). Not for 1 day. Boyfriend and I have a really great relationship, he's a good and decent man, and he is no stranger to grown son problems of his own. And I just said to myself.... I can't put my life, and decent opportunities, on hold for a son who is consistently going nowhere.
Anyway, my moving out was announced to my son months ago. I agreed I will help him financially - enough to be real, solid help but not enough to live on 100%. He had a place, a job, and 2 necessary roommates lined up, until recently. He's been fired again and is now down to only one potential roommate.
My move date is 2 months from now and it is written in stone. Without boring you with the details, a lot of people are relying on the arrangement (again, long story), and I just can't have my son live with us. I'm up every night because I already see the writing on the wall..... moving day will roll around for me, and he won't have a place or roommates, etc etc. He is doing very little about the situation now. This is not my first rodeo.
I can't back out, I need to be strong. He's done nothing to help, he's been disrespectful, gross and lazy. He may last minute scramble but....what do I do? I'm just beside myself.....