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<blockquote data-quote="Fran" data-source="post: 256532" data-attributes="member: 3"><p>It sounds like your regrets of the past may be fueled more by fear of the future. It's terrifying to see your child start down the path of self destruction and non function. Unfortunately, we can't predict the future. </p><p>All we can do is ask ourselves "what does my child need?" Try to provide those supports and help. Some of our kids pull out of it and manage and some of our kids don't. Some of us found out that if they don't, it's upsetting but they are still loved and the world doesn't stop. </p><p></p><p>So as your son says,"be a parent". Tell yourself you made the right decisions at the time and move forward. Beating yourself up wastes energy that could be used elsewhere. It's ok to admit to mistakes(if they were) and then move on. </p><p></p><p>I don't want you to think I am saying don't grieve, don't have regrets, don't evaluate what brought you to this point. We all do that but if it gets to point where "it" ends up diluting your focus then it really cripples you and ends up not helping difficult child. </p><p></p><p>One of the strategies I had when I thought my life was going down the drain because I couldn't fix difficult child was feel sorry for myself for one day. Wake up the next and start over. Make a list of what issues you feel need addressed, then a list of what you can do to help difficult child.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Fran, post: 256532, member: 3"] It sounds like your regrets of the past may be fueled more by fear of the future. It's terrifying to see your child start down the path of self destruction and non function. Unfortunately, we can't predict the future. All we can do is ask ourselves "what does my child need?" Try to provide those supports and help. Some of our kids pull out of it and manage and some of our kids don't. Some of us found out that if they don't, it's upsetting but they are still loved and the world doesn't stop. So as your son says,"be a parent". Tell yourself you made the right decisions at the time and move forward. Beating yourself up wastes energy that could be used elsewhere. It's ok to admit to mistakes(if they were) and then move on. I don't want you to think I am saying don't grieve, don't have regrets, don't evaluate what brought you to this point. We all do that but if it gets to point where "it" ends up diluting your focus then it really cripples you and ends up not helping difficult child. One of the strategies I had when I thought my life was going down the drain because I couldn't fix difficult child was feel sorry for myself for one day. Wake up the next and start over. Make a list of what issues you feel need addressed, then a list of what you can do to help difficult child. [/QUOTE]
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