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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 361582" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>difficult child does not think there is any chance he will be placed with my bro because of being so deeply involved in the Department of Juvenile Justice system now and being 15yo. But, he has NEVER wanted to live with my bro and has always made that clear. But difficult child has different reasons than mine and doesn't believe that my bro would ever do anything to harm him- he thinks I'm just paranoid about "my concerns for his safety" with my bro. (I have never said in detail that I thought my bro would do something like this directly to difficult child.) Still, all the "grooming" signs were there. Of course, those in the courts who know that I was raped by my mother's bro think I'm just paranoid that my bro would do this to difficult child. I have said repetitively that I cannot say for sure my bro would- what I can say is that all the signs (actions, words, methods, etc) were there and that even if my bro wouldn't, there is his live-in SO in the picture who has never received MH treatment for his own sexual abuse as a very young boy by adult men, and the fact that these middle-aged men still have a life style of late parties with drinking and drugs and a house full of other gay men. If I had a young or teen daughter and I had parties of heterosexual men getting stoned in my house half the night, would that be safe? I don't think this is about homophobia- I think it's about what is high-risk or not for a young or teen child. What if one of these parties is going on and my bro passes out- what happens to my son? How is my son getting homework or anything done if he's allowed to drink and they are covering for him? So, difficult child's reasons are much different than mine, but no, he says he does not want to live there. He knows his "uncle" tried to set him up before (he did) but difficult child thinks it was to get him into trouble. It wasn't- it was to try to discredit me so he could get custody. That alone speaks volumes about whether or not a person has the child's best interest at heart.</p><p></p><p>There were many words my bro said to my son that my bro doesn't know I heard- a lot about talking to him more but trying to get difficult child to say he would not tell me. But the day my bro grabbed my son's face (difficult child was about 11-12), kissed him on the lips and then looked at me like "there, I have him where I want him and I'll do what I want and you can't stop it" was about all it took for me to know that I could never trust him. And remember- when difficult child was 12yo on an ankle bracelet and house arrest awaiting trial- my bro tried to get difficult child condoms to have sex with a 10yo girl. The age of consent in our state is 13yo. I tried to pursue charges against my bro then for contributing to the delinquency of a minor- two counts- one for difficult child and one for the girl. But the courts wouldn't let me because my bro had already filed for custody.</p><p></p><p>by the way- difficult child does know Iheard my bro say those things to him because it was difficult child who turned the volume up on the phone and walked next to me when my bro started saying those things- that's how I heard them. I don't think difficult child was old enough or wise enough to get why my bro would be wsaying things like that, but clearly, difficult child must have known it didn't sound "ok" or it made him uncomfortable.</p><p></p><p>I've always taught difficult child not to judge people for religious beliefs, etc, including sexual preference and I don't think he does. However, I do think he'd have a difficult time being comfortable spending his teen years sleeping across the hall from two grown men....well.....actively practicing.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 361582, member: 3699"] difficult child does not think there is any chance he will be placed with my bro because of being so deeply involved in the Department of Juvenile Justice system now and being 15yo. But, he has NEVER wanted to live with my bro and has always made that clear. But difficult child has different reasons than mine and doesn't believe that my bro would ever do anything to harm him- he thinks I'm just paranoid about "my concerns for his safety" with my bro. (I have never said in detail that I thought my bro would do something like this directly to difficult child.) Still, all the "grooming" signs were there. Of course, those in the courts who know that I was raped by my mother's bro think I'm just paranoid that my bro would do this to difficult child. I have said repetitively that I cannot say for sure my bro would- what I can say is that all the signs (actions, words, methods, etc) were there and that even if my bro wouldn't, there is his live-in SO in the picture who has never received MH treatment for his own sexual abuse as a very young boy by adult men, and the fact that these middle-aged men still have a life style of late parties with drinking and drugs and a house full of other gay men. If I had a young or teen daughter and I had parties of heterosexual men getting stoned in my house half the night, would that be safe? I don't think this is about homophobia- I think it's about what is high-risk or not for a young or teen child. What if one of these parties is going on and my bro passes out- what happens to my son? How is my son getting homework or anything done if he's allowed to drink and they are covering for him? So, difficult child's reasons are much different than mine, but no, he says he does not want to live there. He knows his "uncle" tried to set him up before (he did) but difficult child thinks it was to get him into trouble. It wasn't- it was to try to discredit me so he could get custody. That alone speaks volumes about whether or not a person has the child's best interest at heart. There were many words my bro said to my son that my bro doesn't know I heard- a lot about talking to him more but trying to get difficult child to say he would not tell me. But the day my bro grabbed my son's face (difficult child was about 11-12), kissed him on the lips and then looked at me like "there, I have him where I want him and I'll do what I want and you can't stop it" was about all it took for me to know that I could never trust him. And remember- when difficult child was 12yo on an ankle bracelet and house arrest awaiting trial- my bro tried to get difficult child condoms to have sex with a 10yo girl. The age of consent in our state is 13yo. I tried to pursue charges against my bro then for contributing to the delinquency of a minor- two counts- one for difficult child and one for the girl. But the courts wouldn't let me because my bro had already filed for custody. by the way- difficult child does know Iheard my bro say those things to him because it was difficult child who turned the volume up on the phone and walked next to me when my bro started saying those things- that's how I heard them. I don't think difficult child was old enough or wise enough to get why my bro would be wsaying things like that, but clearly, difficult child must have known it didn't sound "ok" or it made him uncomfortable. I've always taught difficult child not to judge people for religious beliefs, etc, including sexual preference and I don't think he does. However, I do think he'd have a difficult time being comfortable spending his teen years sleeping across the hall from two grown men....well.....actively practicing. [/QUOTE]
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