that difficult child is going to be turned over to dss and go to my bro. I have this bad feeling that since I can't make difficult child mind at home and they are looking for ways to prevent difficult child from getting recommitted to Department of Juvenile Justice so soon and because my mental health evaluation will reflect depression and anxiety issues since childhood, that they will see it like my family sees it- everyone else is just fine, it's just me who has psychiatric issues and I'm just paranoid about my bro. I, on the other hand, see it as a very sick family and believe I have more than ample reason to believe it would be worse for difficult child to live at my bros. The attny's here seem to come to conclusions that are so different from mine that I'm not sure they can see that they would be sending difficult child into the home of someone who thinks exactly like those who contributed most to my depression and anxiety as a child. And difficult child is so sure that he knows everything and can handle everything, it leaves him a vunerable sitting duck for manipulation. Do those in the general public still believe that if abuse happens within a family (by another family member), that it's only those two parties who have psychiatric problems instead of it being a very dysfunctional family all the way around? I am afraid that they do. I don't think they see that the reason this passes from generation to generation is because of the continuous dysfunctional patterns that don't change unless one person gets help to prevent passisng so much down to the next generational branch. But I am the only one who ever got that help in my family- my bro did not. He thinks he didn't do anything majorly wrong and he thinks he was unaffected by all the family issues. If difficult child is turned over to dss, it skips the court hearing to equally evaluate which person is better fit to be the guardian. All they do is a homecheck and give custody as a foster parent. One very bad thing is that Department of Juvenile Justice tends to say they can't help what dss does with a kid once turned over to them- yet dss has already said that unless my bro had a conviction for a sex offense against a child, they would be required to automatically place difficult child with him. Give the brilliant conclusions the GAL came to last year that I couldn't be trusted (who knows where that came from), so difficult child should go to Department of Juvenile Justice instead of Residential Treatment Center (RTC), I almopst see this coming. The only hope I have is that I have been lead to believe that difficult child would still be involved in the courts system. It would be a transfer from the juvenile system to dss meaning difficult child would still be on parole, supposedly. So if there is a group home that Department of Juvenile Justice can access, dss is going to push for them to go that route first so they don't have to take difficult child into their system. Poor difficult child has no concept about how deep he has dug himself in and the long term damage to his life all this will have. None of these options are good for him. If they recommit him and keep him until he's 16yo, there might be a group home he'd qualify for then. But OMG, why couldn't they just let him go to Residential Treatment Center (RTC)? If it had been court ordered, it wouldn't have mattered if they trusted me or not. Please don't bash me for rehashing that- my son will never be the same. Occupational Therapist (OT): I'm going to call the police station and double check about whether or not a report of any kind was ever made when I was in high school. Would they have kept a record like that from the mid-1970's? The case never went to court so I've always told people there was never a report filed. However, after going over these details again with the psychiatric this week, it dawned on me what I think happened based on piecing the few facts I know together. My mom to me to a dr to confirm that I had been molested, which he did. He would have been a madated reporter and I believe that was in effect even in the 70's. But I think my mom convinced him that she would report it so he didn't need to. I remember my mom saying she talked with police to find out what would happen if she filed a formal report and whatever they told her made her scared to death of it. I suspect part of it might have been to save me from going thru it, but part of it might have been her being afraid of confrontation about her incompetency in the matter. Then I remember her telling me the police were looking for him, but my step-dad paid someone to get him out of town and dump him on the street in a city far away. That was fact because a few years later, he was found dead on one of those streets in that city. That is why no formal complaint was made by my therapist- he was already dead. So, would there be any chance that a police station would have any record of discussion with my mom over this stuff all these years later? The thing is, if I can prove that this happened, it puts more credibility on my statement about my bro trying it.