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I'm so disappointed in my 20 year & cannot even speak to him...help!!!!
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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 559808" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p><span style="color: #000000">DT welcome. I'm sorry you're going through this with your son, you're in a tough place. Many of us here deal with this exact kind of situation with our adult children. Has your son been evaluated for any mental/emotional issues by a professional? </span></p><p><span style="color: #000000"></span></p><p><span style="color: #000000">Some kids have a very difficult time with the transition from childhood to adulthood. Your son is in that age group and it appears he is having a difficult time coping with life, the girlfriend issues, school, a job. He also is abusing drugs which makes everything much more difficult. You may want to post over in Substance abuse as well for others to offer support.</span></p><p><span style="color: #000000"></span></p><p><span style="color: #000000">For most of us, there comes a time when all we can do is begin detaching from our adult children. We've tried everything and we end up doing more for them then they do for themselves. It's not easy, but it becomes necessary. For you and your husband, I would suggest finding support, either through therapy, 12 step groups such as Al anon or codependency groups or any parent group which you can find which addresses what you're dealing with. You will need some help finding your way through this maze, it's really hard on us parents. Keep posting here as well, it helps a lot and you'll get support from others in the same boat.</span></p><p><span style="color: #000000"></span></p><p><span style="color: #000000">I understand your heartache and how your son is impacting you and your husband and your relationship. Many of us feel that we don't want to see or talk to our kids, it is very sad and it's almost common around here.</span></p><p><span style="color: #000000"></span></p><p><span style="color: #000000">I'm getting ready to go to work now, I just wanted to welcome you and tell you that you've come to the right place. Below is a very good article on detachment you might want to read and share with your husband.</span></p><p><span style="color: #000000"></span></p><p><span style="color: #000000">Hang in there and keep posting. (((HUGS))))</span></p><p><span style="color: #000000"></span></p><p><span style="color: #000000"></span><a href="http://www.livestrong.com/article/14712-developing-detachment" target="_blank">http://www.livestrong.com/article/14...ing-detachment</a></p><p><span style="color: #000000"></span></p><p><span style="color: #000000"></span></p><p><span style="color: #000000"></span></p><p><span style="color: #000000"></span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 559808, member: 13542"] [COLOR=#000000]DT welcome. I'm sorry you're going through this with your son, you're in a tough place. Many of us here deal with this exact kind of situation with our adult children. Has your son been evaluated for any mental/emotional issues by a professional? Some kids have a very difficult time with the transition from childhood to adulthood. Your son is in that age group and it appears he is having a difficult time coping with life, the girlfriend issues, school, a job. He also is abusing drugs which makes everything much more difficult. You may want to post over in Substance abuse as well for others to offer support. For most of us, there comes a time when all we can do is begin detaching from our adult children. We've tried everything and we end up doing more for them then they do for themselves. It's not easy, but it becomes necessary. For you and your husband, I would suggest finding support, either through therapy, 12 step groups such as Al anon or codependency groups or any parent group which you can find which addresses what you're dealing with. You will need some help finding your way through this maze, it's really hard on us parents. Keep posting here as well, it helps a lot and you'll get support from others in the same boat. I understand your heartache and how your son is impacting you and your husband and your relationship. Many of us feel that we don't want to see or talk to our kids, it is very sad and it's almost common around here. I'm getting ready to go to work now, I just wanted to welcome you and tell you that you've come to the right place. Below is a very good article on detachment you might want to read and share with your husband. Hang in there and keep posting. (((HUGS)))) [/COLOR][URL="http://www.livestrong.com/article/14712-developing-detachment"]http://www.livestrong.com/article/14...ing-detachment[/URL] [COLOR=#000000] [/COLOR] [/QUOTE]
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