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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 304125" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>I don't mean to be rude here, but I must ask this.</p><p></p><p>Are you truly doing a sticker chart for a 19yo man? What, exactly, do you think will be the result of using a method that usually doesn't work with people over the age of 8?</p><p></p><p>He is an adult. I know he has all the disabilities and disorders, but he also had got a Mom who does most of the things he should have to do for himself. </p><p></p><p>You don't want him to move out until he can pay for a nice life? He HAS a nice life at your house. No wonder he won't do anything. HOnestly, he doesn't HAVE to do much. Every once in a while do chores nicely and mommy is willing to do all those nasty forms and deal with all the rules and drive him all over.</p><p></p><p>You really NEED to step back and STOP treating him like a 6yo. You are keeping him from growing up. Unless he MUST pay regular bills and MUST pay his own way he is NOT going to see what you mean.</p><p></p><p>Infantilizing him is NOT helping him. At. All.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 304125, member: 1233"] I don't mean to be rude here, but I must ask this. Are you truly doing a sticker chart for a 19yo man? What, exactly, do you think will be the result of using a method that usually doesn't work with people over the age of 8? He is an adult. I know he has all the disabilities and disorders, but he also had got a Mom who does most of the things he should have to do for himself. You don't want him to move out until he can pay for a nice life? He HAS a nice life at your house. No wonder he won't do anything. HOnestly, he doesn't HAVE to do much. Every once in a while do chores nicely and mommy is willing to do all those nasty forms and deal with all the rules and drive him all over. You really NEED to step back and STOP treating him like a 6yo. You are keeping him from growing up. Unless he MUST pay regular bills and MUST pay his own way he is NOT going to see what you mean. Infantilizing him is NOT helping him. At. All. [/QUOTE]
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