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<blockquote data-quote="DDD" data-source="post: 570947" data-attributes="member: 35"><p>Please do not get a job now. Please do not put the children in daycare now. Please don't do anything except find the best divorce attorney in your town...if he hasn't already gotten the best one. I not only got divorced (with a shared attorney..dumb!) but I have lived longer than everyone else on the Board and the "nicest" wives/Moms that I have known have ended up with big problems down the road. It's great to maintain a pleasant relationship if possible for the sake of the kids but...he is the one who wants this radical quick change in lifestyle and that is not in your best interests. Get thee to an attorney...pronto...and do not discuss your choice with your former husband. It has to be approached like a pleasant, civilized war. You, and only you, can protect the future you and your children deserve.</p><p>Trust us on this. When I was thirty I knew a truly lovely, educated lady who was blindsided by her husband of forty years or more. He had sold everything they owned before telling her they were separating. By the time they got to court his only provable asset was their lovely long time home. The Court had them sell the home and split the money <strong>but </strong>he had mortgaged it to the hilt with-o her knowledge. She ended up in her 60's living in a one bedroom apartment.Terrible things can happen if you don't get into warrior mode. Very sad but very very truel. Vent here as often as it helps you. We're a nice support system with alot of collective life wisdom. Hugs DDD</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DDD, post: 570947, member: 35"] Please do not get a job now. Please do not put the children in daycare now. Please don't do anything except find the best divorce attorney in your town...if he hasn't already gotten the best one. I not only got divorced (with a shared attorney..dumb!) but I have lived longer than everyone else on the Board and the "nicest" wives/Moms that I have known have ended up with big problems down the road. It's great to maintain a pleasant relationship if possible for the sake of the kids but...he is the one who wants this radical quick change in lifestyle and that is not in your best interests. Get thee to an attorney...pronto...and do not discuss your choice with your former husband. It has to be approached like a pleasant, civilized war. You, and only you, can protect the future you and your children deserve. Trust us on this. When I was thirty I knew a truly lovely, educated lady who was blindsided by her husband of forty years or more. He had sold everything they owned before telling her they were separating. By the time they got to court his only provable asset was their lovely long time home. The Court had them sell the home and split the money [B]but [/B]he had mortgaged it to the hilt with-o her knowledge. She ended up in her 60's living in a one bedroom apartment.Terrible things can happen if you don't get into warrior mode. Very sad but very very truel. Vent here as often as it helps you. We're a nice support system with alot of collective life wisdom. Hugs DDD [/QUOTE]
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