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<blockquote data-quote="trinityroyal" data-source="post: 503782" data-attributes="member: 3907"><p>It certainly doesn't make it acceptable. In a way it's worse than an out-and-out insult, since the "can't you take a joke" statement asks someone to participate in her own bullying, or be accused of not having a sense of humour. She was a bully in high school, she's still a bully now, and you were right to call her on it.</p><p></p><p>The only thing I think you could have done differently is to not let her see that she could still get to you. Sounds to me like she's still bullying because she's not got anything worthwhile to occupy her attention, so getting a rise out of people is how she gets her power. The cruellest thing in the world to someone who's being mean to you is to respond with mild indifference, even amusement. If you can say something similar to what you said, but with a slightly amused and uncaring smile, she would wither and slink away.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="trinityroyal, post: 503782, member: 3907"] It certainly doesn't make it acceptable. In a way it's worse than an out-and-out insult, since the "can't you take a joke" statement asks someone to participate in her own bullying, or be accused of not having a sense of humour. She was a bully in high school, she's still a bully now, and you were right to call her on it. The only thing I think you could have done differently is to not let her see that she could still get to you. Sounds to me like she's still bullying because she's not got anything worthwhile to occupy her attention, so getting a rise out of people is how she gets her power. The cruellest thing in the world to someone who's being mean to you is to respond with mild indifference, even amusement. If you can say something similar to what you said, but with a slightly amused and uncaring smile, she would wither and slink away. [/QUOTE]
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