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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 491513" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>I wish I knew what to tell you. You know I insisted my son not live with us because his violence. I might consider letting him live with us now, MAYBE, and I might not. At this point I don't think he would hurt me, but I also don't think it would be good for any of us. </p><p></p><p>Physical safety has to be the top priority. I know if he comes home the PO, etc... iwll provide what they consider to be "services" for him. Would this mean that you could not also take him to see a MH person to deal with these family issues outside of what they provide? Would you have to even tell them? Would he be receptive?</p><p></p><p>What assurances do you have an/or can he give you that he would not harm you again? What he did to you was extreme and I do not think you have fully dealt with it yet. Your PTSD is extreme and so is your wariness with MH professionals. It would be hard to find a MH person that you trust to counsel you, much less to help the both of you. I don't know that difficult child coming home when neither of you has had any real help with the issues that surround his problems with the legal system and his crime against you and abuse of you., would have even a prayer of success.</p><p></p><p>I also dont' know that putting him in a group home with a bunch of gang members would give him a prayer of success. What does he have to say? Would the 2 of you be willing to work with a MH person if he came home, esp if you kept it away from the PO and CSU people? I say that because all the PO/CSU people have done is yank you around and cause more harm and put you on waiting lists. So I see no reason to include them if it can be avoided.</p><p></p><p>We can vote and vote and vote but it really is not our decision. YOU have to make this one and it is YOUR safety and difficult child's that is at stake. I will support whatever you want to do, well, choose to do because I know you would rather have a lot of other choices than either of these two right now. </p><p></p><p>I am sorry I can't be more definative.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 491513, member: 1233"] I wish I knew what to tell you. You know I insisted my son not live with us because his violence. I might consider letting him live with us now, MAYBE, and I might not. At this point I don't think he would hurt me, but I also don't think it would be good for any of us. Physical safety has to be the top priority. I know if he comes home the PO, etc... iwll provide what they consider to be "services" for him. Would this mean that you could not also take him to see a MH person to deal with these family issues outside of what they provide? Would you have to even tell them? Would he be receptive? What assurances do you have an/or can he give you that he would not harm you again? What he did to you was extreme and I do not think you have fully dealt with it yet. Your PTSD is extreme and so is your wariness with MH professionals. It would be hard to find a MH person that you trust to counsel you, much less to help the both of you. I don't know that difficult child coming home when neither of you has had any real help with the issues that surround his problems with the legal system and his crime against you and abuse of you., would have even a prayer of success. I also dont' know that putting him in a group home with a bunch of gang members would give him a prayer of success. What does he have to say? Would the 2 of you be willing to work with a MH person if he came home, esp if you kept it away from the PO and CSU people? I say that because all the PO/CSU people have done is yank you around and cause more harm and put you on waiting lists. So I see no reason to include them if it can be avoided. We can vote and vote and vote but it really is not our decision. YOU have to make this one and it is YOUR safety and difficult child's that is at stake. I will support whatever you want to do, well, choose to do because I know you would rather have a lot of other choices than either of these two right now. I am sorry I can't be more definative. [/QUOTE]
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