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<blockquote data-quote="DDD" data-source="post: 491610" data-attributes="member: 35"><p>I'm not comfortable with voting but I will offer some input. My computer "lost" a lengthly well thought out reply to your post in the wee hours of the morning. That means this one will be shorter, lol, because I think I'll go on a rampage if I lost another long one.</p><p></p><p>I think you are factoring in a few concerns that aren't too valid. The first is GH living with gang members. I know that in his six month stay at a Department of Juvenile Justice s.a. facility difficult child learned all about gangs from members. When he came home he recognized signs, colors and ethnic groups. In our small community there are five known gangs. difficult child's have to make choices and the secrecy and commraderie of gangs is tempting. Living with a few in a GH is going to be a step down from juvie prison.</p><p></p><p>His education has been derailed from the fast track due to his choices. been there done that. on the other hand if he truly wants a specific career he will find a way to achieve it. We all know he is smart enough. Time will tell if he is dedicated to it.</p><p></p><p>He does not respect "the system" or authority and for years has perceived them as intrusive dolts. As adults many of us have seen the ineptitudes etc. but it's different with teens. I recall that recently when you visited with him he said something like "I'll talk to my friends here and find out what I should say and do when I have my next meeting". I think that's relevant. difficult child's are manipulators to get what they want. I don't see him as likely to conform to rules imposed by "the system" and believe he has learned how to "beat it" if possible.</p><p></p><p>Another factor is that nobody knows how many months there will be between release and his birthday. I don't really it is a very long period of time. It could be a healthy transitional time for him.</p><p>Socially? He would likely have more acceptance and support in a structured setting than facing lots of strangers in a judgemental neighborhood high school.</p><p></p><p>Oops...I did it again. Sorry if it's too long but it's complex. Hugs DDD</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DDD, post: 491610, member: 35"] I'm not comfortable with voting but I will offer some input. My computer "lost" a lengthly well thought out reply to your post in the wee hours of the morning. That means this one will be shorter, lol, because I think I'll go on a rampage if I lost another long one. I think you are factoring in a few concerns that aren't too valid. The first is GH living with gang members. I know that in his six month stay at a Department of Juvenile Justice s.a. facility difficult child learned all about gangs from members. When he came home he recognized signs, colors and ethnic groups. In our small community there are five known gangs. difficult child's have to make choices and the secrecy and commraderie of gangs is tempting. Living with a few in a GH is going to be a step down from juvie prison. His education has been derailed from the fast track due to his choices. been there done that. on the other hand if he truly wants a specific career he will find a way to achieve it. We all know he is smart enough. Time will tell if he is dedicated to it. He does not respect "the system" or authority and for years has perceived them as intrusive dolts. As adults many of us have seen the ineptitudes etc. but it's different with teens. I recall that recently when you visited with him he said something like "I'll talk to my friends here and find out what I should say and do when I have my next meeting". I think that's relevant. difficult child's are manipulators to get what they want. I don't see him as likely to conform to rules imposed by "the system" and believe he has learned how to "beat it" if possible. Another factor is that nobody knows how many months there will be between release and his birthday. I don't really it is a very long period of time. It could be a healthy transitional time for him. Socially? He would likely have more acceptance and support in a structured setting than facing lots of strangers in a judgemental neighborhood high school. Oops...I did it again. Sorry if it's too long but it's complex. Hugs DDD [/QUOTE]
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