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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 492110" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>thank you, MM. I can't say enough how good it is just to know someone else in this world understands.</p><p></p><p>DDD, those sort of details will be put out after the placeement - I have no idea and can't see why that's important right now since I have no control over it. At one point, the PO and super (with snickers on their faces and a bit of attitude in their voices) said they might 'let' me take difficult child to family therapy if he goes to GH. The problem though is that doesn't cover my safety and doesn't give the intensive therapy that is needed. That would be a poor excuse for what is really needed. We were in therapy before. The problem was that when intense, serious, emoptional issues were confronted, difficult child would hold it in until he came home or we were alone and become explosive. I guess it takes the experience of living with DV before a person can truly understand the patterns and why these things have to be handled by profs with expertise or it only serves to instigate more. Making difficult child promise not to get mad, as one therapist did, just doesn't cut it. In home therapy won't cut it. Therefore, it won't get addressed while difficult child is a minor because the csu people only will consider sending him home and ordering these things- that we've already tried and only served for difficult child to get where he is. And they think this is funny because they are son convinced that it's just me trying to take over or something- maybe they think if it was really that bad, I wouldn't still be advocating for difficult child, I don't know and don't care anymore. If there's no effective communication between them and me, it isn't going to get anywhere anyway.</p><p></p><p>I am sure that if difficult child uses a knife to rob me or someone at the GH or anyone else, he will go back to incarceration, whether as a juvenile or adult. If he does something that's a slight parole violation, they give parole sanctions.</p><p></p><p>I'm more worried about this video conference later this week right now- I know, it changes daily. LOL! My gut tells me this is only happening so super can be confrontational and try to establish that they are in control, which of course, difficult child and I already know. I'm not planning on letting them pit me and my son against each other any more than I can help it, even if it means that I don't show up for this thing.</p><p></p><p>I did a little yard work (small yard) and am getting ready to run to the store for necessaties- and I hate the thought of fighting the crowd today- but have to get some stuff done and am trying not to dwell on the worry right now. I need to write difficult child this evening and hope he can call before this stupid conference.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 492110, member: 3699"] thank you, MM. I can't say enough how good it is just to know someone else in this world understands. DDD, those sort of details will be put out after the placeement - I have no idea and can't see why that's important right now since I have no control over it. At one point, the PO and super (with snickers on their faces and a bit of attitude in their voices) said they might 'let' me take difficult child to family therapy if he goes to GH. The problem though is that doesn't cover my safety and doesn't give the intensive therapy that is needed. That would be a poor excuse for what is really needed. We were in therapy before. The problem was that when intense, serious, emoptional issues were confronted, difficult child would hold it in until he came home or we were alone and become explosive. I guess it takes the experience of living with DV before a person can truly understand the patterns and why these things have to be handled by profs with expertise or it only serves to instigate more. Making difficult child promise not to get mad, as one therapist did, just doesn't cut it. In home therapy won't cut it. Therefore, it won't get addressed while difficult child is a minor because the csu people only will consider sending him home and ordering these things- that we've already tried and only served for difficult child to get where he is. And they think this is funny because they are son convinced that it's just me trying to take over or something- maybe they think if it was really that bad, I wouldn't still be advocating for difficult child, I don't know and don't care anymore. If there's no effective communication between them and me, it isn't going to get anywhere anyway. I am sure that if difficult child uses a knife to rob me or someone at the GH or anyone else, he will go back to incarceration, whether as a juvenile or adult. If he does something that's a slight parole violation, they give parole sanctions. I'm more worried about this video conference later this week right now- I know, it changes daily. LOL! My gut tells me this is only happening so super can be confrontational and try to establish that they are in control, which of course, difficult child and I already know. I'm not planning on letting them pit me and my son against each other any more than I can help it, even if it means that I don't show up for this thing. I did a little yard work (small yard) and am getting ready to run to the store for necessaties- and I hate the thought of fighting the crowd today- but have to get some stuff done and am trying not to dwell on the worry right now. I need to write difficult child this evening and hope he can call before this stupid conference. [/QUOTE]
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