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<blockquote data-quote="InsaneCdn" data-source="post: 448632" data-attributes="member: 11791"><p>There could be multiple things going on...</p><p>Any time there is a change in family dynamics, there is a tendency for others to try to force the dynamics back to "normal".</p><p>So, difficult child is changing... in this case, it sounds like for the positive.</p><p>But, as a result, it affects how easy child/difficult child sees himself and his place in the family - and <u>he</u> doesn't like the change and/or doesn't have the skills right now to cope with the change... and so, he's pushing difficult children buttons on purpose to try to drag difficult child back down... not consciously, but quite effectively.</p><p>If this is the case, a therapist can help sort through it.</p><p></p><p>As well... these are twins. If one has a tendency toward depression, then the chances are high that the other will have that same tendency. Perhaps easy child/difficult child is suffering from undiagnosed depression or its milder but chronic version, dysthymia. This would also increase his neediness. Perhaps the therapist or psychiatrist could review this possibility. Depression can also be linked to perfectionism, anxiety and other mood disorders - the impact on thougth processes and perception of success/failure are affected by these mood disorders and can set the stage for depression as well.</p><p></p><p>Just some ideas.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="InsaneCdn, post: 448632, member: 11791"] There could be multiple things going on... Any time there is a change in family dynamics, there is a tendency for others to try to force the dynamics back to "normal". So, difficult child is changing... in this case, it sounds like for the positive. But, as a result, it affects how easy child/difficult child sees himself and his place in the family - and [U]he[/U] doesn't like the change and/or doesn't have the skills right now to cope with the change... and so, he's pushing difficult children buttons on purpose to try to drag difficult child back down... not consciously, but quite effectively. If this is the case, a therapist can help sort through it. As well... these are twins. If one has a tendency toward depression, then the chances are high that the other will have that same tendency. Perhaps easy child/difficult child is suffering from undiagnosed depression or its milder but chronic version, dysthymia. This would also increase his neediness. Perhaps the therapist or psychiatrist could review this possibility. Depression can also be linked to perfectionism, anxiety and other mood disorders - the impact on thougth processes and perception of success/failure are affected by these mood disorders and can set the stage for depression as well. Just some ideas. [/QUOTE]
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