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<blockquote data-quote="Signorina" data-source="post: 488634"><p>You need a division of duty - a chore list. Seems like everyone is expecting someone else to do whatever needs to get done.</p><p></p><p>My H and I divided up the household chores very early in our marriage. As the kids got older, they were given "their own" chores too - based upon their age. (somehow, H's chores were most of the ones that got outsourced to the boys, sigh)Now, if one of us (or our kids) is super busy, we all pinch hit. But if someone starts taking advantage, we call them on it. </p><p></p><p>I was the youngest - later in life baby - in my house. My mom had been there done that, so I was not great about making my bed or picking up after myself. On the other hand, H was the oldest of 3 with a single parent, working mom. Keeping her kids bustling with chores was mother in law's way of making sure they didn't get into trouble while she was at work. Of course - as the oldest - H did his AND his brother's chores so HE wouldn't get into trouble since he was "in charge." H was determined that our kids wouldn't be slackers like his brother (or me) and our boys were making their beds and putting away their own clothes by the time they were 4.</p><p></p><p>Start making of list of the daily, weekly and month tasks that need to be done around your home. Get Tony and Billy's input make the list overly exhaustive and complete. Make a dinner everyone loves, sit around the table and start dividing it up with everyone's input. Make it clear that you all will be doing some chores that you like to do and some chores that you hate to do. 'tis life. Post the list and make sure YOU set a good example by doing your end. When Billy or Tony seem to "forget" - be nice and say something like "dinner will be ready in 15 minutes, that should give you enough time to take out the trash and wash up..." with a smile on your face. (I learned that from a friend, works really well most of the time)</p><p></p><p>Just my $.02</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Signorina, post: 488634"] You need a division of duty - a chore list. Seems like everyone is expecting someone else to do whatever needs to get done. My H and I divided up the household chores very early in our marriage. As the kids got older, they were given "their own" chores too - based upon their age. (somehow, H's chores were most of the ones that got outsourced to the boys, sigh)Now, if one of us (or our kids) is super busy, we all pinch hit. But if someone starts taking advantage, we call them on it. I was the youngest - later in life baby - in my house. My mom had been there done that, so I was not great about making my bed or picking up after myself. On the other hand, H was the oldest of 3 with a single parent, working mom. Keeping her kids bustling with chores was mother in law's way of making sure they didn't get into trouble while she was at work. Of course - as the oldest - H did his AND his brother's chores so HE wouldn't get into trouble since he was "in charge." H was determined that our kids wouldn't be slackers like his brother (or me) and our boys were making their beds and putting away their own clothes by the time they were 4. Start making of list of the daily, weekly and month tasks that need to be done around your home. Get Tony and Billy's input make the list overly exhaustive and complete. Make a dinner everyone loves, sit around the table and start dividing it up with everyone's input. Make it clear that you all will be doing some chores that you like to do and some chores that you hate to do. 'tis life. Post the list and make sure YOU set a good example by doing your end. When Billy or Tony seem to "forget" - be nice and say something like "dinner will be ready in 15 minutes, that should give you enough time to take out the trash and wash up..." with a smile on your face. (I learned that from a friend, works really well most of the time) Just my $.02 [/QUOTE]
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