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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 665232" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Copa, I can figure it out.</p><p></p><p>You got away, which was smart of you. It was the right thing to do as your mother treated you with no respect or love. Your sister put up with her day after day and finally it blew up at the end. I can't blame your sister for finally exploding, as vile as she can be to you...it may be partly because she made a bad decision to stay near your mother and put up with her garbage. Maybe that's why she is so mean. That would make ANYBODY mean. Day after day after day belittling, abuse, put downs, even as an adult.</p><p></p><p>It was why you had the strength to be there in the end...you had had a reprieve and lucky for your mother that you took that break from her.</p><p></p><p>Like my own mother, yours was incapable of having a long term healthy relationship. With anybody, including her children.</p><p></p><p>You knew this and saved yourself. Why you feel guilty now, I don't really understand because you were doing what you had to do. Your sister did not and look what she turned into.</p><p></p><p>Maybe she was finally paying your mother back for years of abuse that SHE chose to put up with, but still resented. So she went no contact at the end.</p><p></p><p>I certainly could be wrong, but on paper at least it sounds logical to me.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 665232, member: 1550"] Copa, I can figure it out. You got away, which was smart of you. It was the right thing to do as your mother treated you with no respect or love. Your sister put up with her day after day and finally it blew up at the end. I can't blame your sister for finally exploding, as vile as she can be to you...it may be partly because she made a bad decision to stay near your mother and put up with her garbage. Maybe that's why she is so mean. That would make ANYBODY mean. Day after day after day belittling, abuse, put downs, even as an adult. It was why you had the strength to be there in the end...you had had a reprieve and lucky for your mother that you took that break from her. Like my own mother, yours was incapable of having a long term healthy relationship. With anybody, including her children. You knew this and saved yourself. Why you feel guilty now, I don't really understand because you were doing what you had to do. Your sister did not and look what she turned into. Maybe she was finally paying your mother back for years of abuse that SHE chose to put up with, but still resented. So she went no contact at the end. I certainly could be wrong, but on paper at least it sounds logical to me. [/QUOTE]
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