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<blockquote data-quote="Scent of Cedar *" data-source="post: 666334" data-attributes="member: 17461"><p>When, as happened in your case, a private communication is forwarded without your knowledge or permission, that is a forgivable breach of trust. That the material was forwarded without care taken to protect your identity is a second, also forgivable, breach of trust. That you were then censured, out of the blue, by someone whose words carry a certain measure of authority ~ especially given that you had no clue the communication you sent privately had been forwarded in the first place ~ that blows the whole thing out of the water and feels like a betrayal of trust.</p><p></p><p>So...how does one recover her sense of equilibrium. </p><p></p><p>I don't know, either.</p><p></p><p>Over time, the discomfort of having been censured by a third party over a communication sent privately and then, forwarded without your knowledge or permission, will fade. The moderator's decision to ignore your request for further clarification...in that your request for clarification from the moderator was not addressed, you were essentially dismissed.</p><p></p><p>Like you don't matter.</p><p></p><p>Ouch.</p><p></p><p>So, just when you think a situation could not possibly become more confused, it does. You are left without recourse. You have no voice; you have no option but to accept whatever comes next...but, as is the case for all of our children, here on the site, your child too is troubled. The strength and support each of us finds here is one of the few reliable sources of understanding and information we have. So it isn't like you can just say, "Oh, whatever. I will find another source of support."</p><p></p><p>I'm sorry, Copa.</p><p></p><p>This should never have happened. </p><p></p><p>Cedar</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Scent of Cedar *, post: 666334, member: 17461"] When, as happened in your case, a private communication is forwarded without your knowledge or permission, that is a forgivable breach of trust. That the material was forwarded without care taken to protect your identity is a second, also forgivable, breach of trust. That you were then censured, out of the blue, by someone whose words carry a certain measure of authority ~ especially given that you had no clue the communication you sent privately had been forwarded in the first place ~ that blows the whole thing out of the water and feels like a betrayal of trust. So...how does one recover her sense of equilibrium. I don't know, either. Over time, the discomfort of having been censured by a third party over a communication sent privately and then, forwarded without your knowledge or permission, will fade. The moderator's decision to ignore your request for further clarification...in that your request for clarification from the moderator was not addressed, you were essentially dismissed. Like you don't matter. Ouch. So, just when you think a situation could not possibly become more confused, it does. You are left without recourse. You have no voice; you have no option but to accept whatever comes next...but, as is the case for all of our children, here on the site, your child too is troubled. The strength and support each of us finds here is one of the few reliable sources of understanding and information we have. So it isn't like you can just say, "Oh, whatever. I will find another source of support." I'm sorry, Copa. This should never have happened. Cedar [/QUOTE]
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