totiredtofight
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Last night difficult child 2 did not call home like she always does(she always calls between 6:30 and 7:30). Worried that something was wrong i called the psychiatric hospital at 8:15 to find out why, and was told by staff that a lot more kids were calling home than normal and she would get to call soon. 9:00 rolled around and still no call from difficult child 2. i called back and was told by another staff member that they were done with calls for the night and he would find her so i could talk to her. After about 5 Min on hold difficult child 2 picks up the phone she sounded very distant and depressed so i asked her why she didn't call.
she said "i couldn't". so i asked her were you told you couldn't or were you just busy with something else? she said "yes" .. yes to what you were busy "no" you were told you couldn't call "yes" well why didn't you say that i asked her she replied "i cant" which lead me to ask if someone was standing there listening she said "yes" after a few minutes of silence she whispered "mom they hurt my arm i cant straighten it or bend it with out it hurting" i told her i would find out what was going on suddenly she said "mom i have to go to bed now" and hung up.
with all that being said ... i have only been able to make the trip to visit once in the 3 weeks she has been away and then there was a bruise on her arm and forehead and a sore on her cheek she told me she didn't know where the bruise on her arm or the sore came from but that she hit her head on the wall .. this past Wednesday her uncle went to visit her, and saw a bite mark on her forearm and what looked to be adult fingerprints on her upper arm. she would not tell him where they came from when i asked her about it on the phone she said there were no bite marks or bruises on her. so after i talked with her last night i called to speak to the nurse manager. she said that there was nothing she could do but pass it along to the advocate then asked me how she could "convince" me to trust staff and that none of what difficult child 2 had said happened. i explained to her that i understand my child has issues however she would not lie about something like that (which i fully believe after the bruises were seen by myself and her uncle). over the weekend i was called, as i had been once before that she had assaulted staff and was put in the "hold" however when i call and talk to staff or they call me they never give any details of what happened or its cause just the generic "shes fine" or "she was placed in the hold for assaulting staff or peers" .... I'm really starting to think this is doing more harm to her than good.
i did talk to the advocate this morning said he would look into it but no word yet, and trying to get her psychiatrist and therapist on the phone takes forever .. if i call at 8 am they might return my call at 5 PM
she said "i couldn't". so i asked her were you told you couldn't or were you just busy with something else? she said "yes" .. yes to what you were busy "no" you were told you couldn't call "yes" well why didn't you say that i asked her she replied "i cant" which lead me to ask if someone was standing there listening she said "yes" after a few minutes of silence she whispered "mom they hurt my arm i cant straighten it or bend it with out it hurting" i told her i would find out what was going on suddenly she said "mom i have to go to bed now" and hung up.
with all that being said ... i have only been able to make the trip to visit once in the 3 weeks she has been away and then there was a bruise on her arm and forehead and a sore on her cheek she told me she didn't know where the bruise on her arm or the sore came from but that she hit her head on the wall .. this past Wednesday her uncle went to visit her, and saw a bite mark on her forearm and what looked to be adult fingerprints on her upper arm. she would not tell him where they came from when i asked her about it on the phone she said there were no bite marks or bruises on her. so after i talked with her last night i called to speak to the nurse manager. she said that there was nothing she could do but pass it along to the advocate then asked me how she could "convince" me to trust staff and that none of what difficult child 2 had said happened. i explained to her that i understand my child has issues however she would not lie about something like that (which i fully believe after the bruises were seen by myself and her uncle). over the weekend i was called, as i had been once before that she had assaulted staff and was put in the "hold" however when i call and talk to staff or they call me they never give any details of what happened or its cause just the generic "shes fine" or "she was placed in the hold for assaulting staff or peers" .... I'm really starting to think this is doing more harm to her than good.
i did talk to the advocate this morning said he would look into it but no word yet, and trying to get her psychiatrist and therapist on the phone takes forever .. if i call at 8 am they might return my call at 5 PM