I am new here so I figured this was where to start. I have searched the internet looking for a forum to help me keep my sanity and have not had much luck. I have 3 kids. My oldest is 19 (daughter)and was never a hard time. My middle(daughter) is 17 and was for a while and still is from time to time, hard. My youngest (son) is 13 and if he makes it to 14, I will be amazed. We have meltdown almost weekly. He is very defiant and gets into trouble in school all the time. I homeschooled him last year and he's been back in public this year about 5 weeks and gotten 4 referrals already. Most, if not all were over trivial stuff but he has his victim's role down pat and won't take responsibility for his actions. The principal already suggested we home school again. I don't want him back home for that. He doesn't listen to me and I need my sanity time while he is in school. He always wants to fight someone. I swear he thinks he is superman. All I hear is he wants to fight this guy or bust that one in the nose. He tries to be the 17 year old's "daddy" and tell her where she can't go. My husband and I are trying our best but this weekend was a serious meltdown with my husband telling our son to get out of his house after he got in the 17yo's face screaming at her. She got in her car and left and said she was not coming back. My son left and it took us a while to get things calmed again...around 10:30 pm. This all started about 6pm. I just had a meltdown and cried. I can't deal with anymore and don't know what else to do. I bought the transformation program for $300 and should have just flushed the money down the toilet. Now my husband is mentioning military school and it breaks my heart. Sorry I am rambling. I am just lost, confused, and scared.