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In over my head 12 y.o. son with ADHD, Bipolar, CD and ICD/Intermittent Explosive Disorder (IED)
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<blockquote data-quote="buddy" data-source="post: 507701" data-attributes="member: 12886"><p>Hello AML, I am so sorry you are going through this. </p><p></p><p>He sounds behaviorally much like my son can get....also blurting out swear words etc. It sounds like he is in a pretty punitive kind of setting. To have that many lock ups... that says to me there is a problem with his interventions, do you feel that? I know they can argue what else can we do when he gets like that?? Well, it is their job to figure out something better... a positive behavioral plan. If they can't figure it out, you can ask for an independent functional assessment with an expert..... from outside of the school, at their expense...</p><p></p><p>Have you had a neuropsychologist evaluation done? an Occupational Therapist (OT) evaluation for sensory integration issues? Are you sure the tics are medication related or could these behaviors be tics related to Tourette's... (including the swearing and jumping/running...!!!)</p><p></p><p>Just throwing stuff out, not saying you haven't done enough or anything...most of us come here to have others who have been there and at the end of our ropes throw out ideas/brain storm...</p><p></p><p>I totally get those days when you want to take every last thing away as a punishment. My son has no internet right now....</p><p></p><p>It stops things temporarily, but I will be TOTALLY honest... it has NEVER, not one time...corrected his behaviors since they are neurologically driven and based on a lack of skills to do better.... </p><p></p><p>The only thing that has helped long term are therapies that focus on sensory integration, improved fine and gross motor development, improvement of social skills/communication, improvement of language processing, and avoiding triggers that we KNOW will make things worse (transitions, changes in schedules, too many noises to overload him, other kids making noises or saying words that he then says and does more frequently and louder and longer.....) It is a constant dance with him to keep things calm and I am in a struggle right now to find the right way to treat it. He will never go back to a place like he has been in the past where he was frequently locked in a room... it ended in a disastrous increase in behaviors. A year away from that and he was much much better...(he was with a teacher who was amazing at helping him to develop skills, they changed the program so she quit and the next year went back to yuck!)</p><p></p><p>I can't even imagine having other kids to care for with my son....Can you apply to your county for PCA or behavioral support so they can take him out in the community and help him at home with behaviors...even three days at 4 hours each are amazing for me. </p><p></p><p>Bless you and welcome to our group.</p><p></p><p>(oh in case others dont mention it, lol, they will..... The Explosive Child by Ross Greene and What your Explosive Child is Trying to say to you by Doug Riley and Lost in School by Ross Greene are all great books for help with parenting our kids... My son was at one school that used these methods for his behavior plan and he did amazingly well... the psychiatric in charge had a baby and it all fell to pot the next year.. story of our lives!)</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="buddy, post: 507701, member: 12886"] Hello AML, I am so sorry you are going through this. He sounds behaviorally much like my son can get....also blurting out swear words etc. It sounds like he is in a pretty punitive kind of setting. To have that many lock ups... that says to me there is a problem with his interventions, do you feel that? I know they can argue what else can we do when he gets like that?? Well, it is their job to figure out something better... a positive behavioral plan. If they can't figure it out, you can ask for an independent functional assessment with an expert..... from outside of the school, at their expense... Have you had a neuropsychologist evaluation done? an Occupational Therapist (OT) evaluation for sensory integration issues? Are you sure the tics are medication related or could these behaviors be tics related to Tourette's... (including the swearing and jumping/running...!!!) Just throwing stuff out, not saying you haven't done enough or anything...most of us come here to have others who have been there and at the end of our ropes throw out ideas/brain storm... I totally get those days when you want to take every last thing away as a punishment. My son has no internet right now.... It stops things temporarily, but I will be TOTALLY honest... it has NEVER, not one time...corrected his behaviors since they are neurologically driven and based on a lack of skills to do better.... The only thing that has helped long term are therapies that focus on sensory integration, improved fine and gross motor development, improvement of social skills/communication, improvement of language processing, and avoiding triggers that we KNOW will make things worse (transitions, changes in schedules, too many noises to overload him, other kids making noises or saying words that he then says and does more frequently and louder and longer.....) It is a constant dance with him to keep things calm and I am in a struggle right now to find the right way to treat it. He will never go back to a place like he has been in the past where he was frequently locked in a room... it ended in a disastrous increase in behaviors. A year away from that and he was much much better...(he was with a teacher who was amazing at helping him to develop skills, they changed the program so she quit and the next year went back to yuck!) I can't even imagine having other kids to care for with my son....Can you apply to your county for PCA or behavioral support so they can take him out in the community and help him at home with behaviors...even three days at 4 hours each are amazing for me. Bless you and welcome to our group. (oh in case others dont mention it, lol, they will..... The Explosive Child by Ross Greene and What your Explosive Child is Trying to say to you by Doug Riley and Lost in School by Ross Greene are all great books for help with parenting our kids... My son was at one school that used these methods for his behavior plan and he did amazingly well... the psychiatric in charge had a baby and it all fell to pot the next year.. story of our lives!) [/QUOTE]
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