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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 575626" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I'll explain how it CAN happen (although I'm quite sure some parents either don't care or are just not going to fight this battle with their difficult child's, figuring that they will suffer natural consequences).</p><p></p><p>When my daughter was doing drugs, she scared the beejaysus out of me by starting to wear all black, including gross black eyeliner and black LIPSTICK. Yes, it exists. The first time I saw it, I was stunned and made her take off the makeup and change her clothes. She was a drug user, but usually surface polite to me so she did it. When she came home, she must have forgotten the morning though because she was wearing the same make up, although her shirt was still red (the one she had changed into). I was furious and checked her purse and backpack. Nothing. She wouldn't answer my questions, just snapped her gum, but I knew the answer. The group of we-love-black dressers had given her the makeup at school. I called the school and they said they couldn't do anything because it wasn't against their dress code and then told me how parents get really ticky when told that their kids are dressed inappropriate, so they have guidelines, but that's about it. </p><p>I never saw my daughter with makeup like that again, but I'm sure she looked that way whenever she went to school. Later on, after all this was over, she told me that the kids just swapped make up. Some parents didn't care if their kids went to school looking like Dracula. Also, she switched clothes with her friends at school too. The red shirt would go into her locker and she'd wear a black tight sweater until the bell rang and then she'd change back and give her friend the black sweater back. WHen I asked her why she wanted to wear black all the time and told her I had been afraid she had been in some sort of satanic cult she laughed at me in a nice way (such as "silly mom") and just said, "Mom, those were very dark days for me so I was just dressing the way I felt." She cheerfully likes to say right now that she dresses like a dowdy housewife when not wearing her chef's uniform...so it didn't last. I can only hope that it doesn't last for the girl who lets her boobs hang out either because she is sending a very obvious message to a bunch of horny teenage boys. And, even in this day and age, there are standards and my younger daughter Jumper and her friends (both female and male) refer to certain girls as (pardon my french) "ho's." So there are still standards you are judged by, even in teenager land.</p><p>If you work at a private school with a dress code, you are lucky. At least you have leverage if this girl keeps dressing that way.</p><p></p><p>This is another issue, but I think the sexualizing of clothing for six year old girls sets a poor example. When my girls were young, it was really hard to find children's clothes for little girls. Most of the clothes were copies of teenage clothes and I didn't want to go there. Maybe I'm the only person on earth bothered by little girls dressed like their teenage sisters, but I was.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 575626, member: 1550"] I'll explain how it CAN happen (although I'm quite sure some parents either don't care or are just not going to fight this battle with their difficult child's, figuring that they will suffer natural consequences). When my daughter was doing drugs, she scared the beejaysus out of me by starting to wear all black, including gross black eyeliner and black LIPSTICK. Yes, it exists. The first time I saw it, I was stunned and made her take off the makeup and change her clothes. She was a drug user, but usually surface polite to me so she did it. When she came home, she must have forgotten the morning though because she was wearing the same make up, although her shirt was still red (the one she had changed into). I was furious and checked her purse and backpack. Nothing. She wouldn't answer my questions, just snapped her gum, but I knew the answer. The group of we-love-black dressers had given her the makeup at school. I called the school and they said they couldn't do anything because it wasn't against their dress code and then told me how parents get really ticky when told that their kids are dressed inappropriate, so they have guidelines, but that's about it. I never saw my daughter with makeup like that again, but I'm sure she looked that way whenever she went to school. Later on, after all this was over, she told me that the kids just swapped make up. Some parents didn't care if their kids went to school looking like Dracula. Also, she switched clothes with her friends at school too. The red shirt would go into her locker and she'd wear a black tight sweater until the bell rang and then she'd change back and give her friend the black sweater back. WHen I asked her why she wanted to wear black all the time and told her I had been afraid she had been in some sort of satanic cult she laughed at me in a nice way (such as "silly mom") and just said, "Mom, those were very dark days for me so I was just dressing the way I felt." She cheerfully likes to say right now that she dresses like a dowdy housewife when not wearing her chef's uniform...so it didn't last. I can only hope that it doesn't last for the girl who lets her boobs hang out either because she is sending a very obvious message to a bunch of horny teenage boys. And, even in this day and age, there are standards and my younger daughter Jumper and her friends (both female and male) refer to certain girls as (pardon my french) "ho's." So there are still standards you are judged by, even in teenager land. If you work at a private school with a dress code, you are lucky. At least you have leverage if this girl keeps dressing that way. This is another issue, but I think the sexualizing of clothing for six year old girls sets a poor example. When my girls were young, it was really hard to find children's clothes for little girls. Most of the clothes were copies of teenage clothes and I didn't want to go there. Maybe I'm the only person on earth bothered by little girls dressed like their teenage sisters, but I was. [/QUOTE]
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