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Hi-
I have been reading posts here for a while and it's time to start posting.
Short intro: I have a 10 year old difficult child with an autism spectrum diagnosis. He is very active, loud, exuberant, with a great vocabulary and no stranger anxiety. He is high functioniong enough that people and other kids do not think 'disability' but they know after a minute or two that 'something is wrong with that kid'. He has no friends and my latest attempt to have him in a regular group (facilitator knew diagnosis) ended with me having to pick him up after one hour because he bit a kid. When I talked to him about the biting he looked shocked and asked me why I had not told him that others might think it's not okay. Sigh. Obviously we had conversations like this many many times. Little transfer of skills. He has had Occupational Therapist (OT), cognitive therapy, Special Education, social skills groups, medications, natural supplements, music therapy, horseback riding....you name it.
So here is my panic: He is 10, in a 14 year old boy body with the social/emotional skills of a 4 year old. Recently he started to have pimples and started talking about ...mating (his words). I know he comes from a place of complete naiveness but I also know that once you are a teen and grown-up no one cares why you say or do the things you say or do. I am trying to get him to understand that if he hits or bites or talks to others about 'mating' they will call the police. I am afraid that it is beyond his capacity to get this. Any proactive advice on what to do before the s..t hits the fan?
I have been reading posts here for a while and it's time to start posting.
Short intro: I have a 10 year old difficult child with an autism spectrum diagnosis. He is very active, loud, exuberant, with a great vocabulary and no stranger anxiety. He is high functioniong enough that people and other kids do not think 'disability' but they know after a minute or two that 'something is wrong with that kid'. He has no friends and my latest attempt to have him in a regular group (facilitator knew diagnosis) ended with me having to pick him up after one hour because he bit a kid. When I talked to him about the biting he looked shocked and asked me why I had not told him that others might think it's not okay. Sigh. Obviously we had conversations like this many many times. Little transfer of skills. He has had Occupational Therapist (OT), cognitive therapy, Special Education, social skills groups, medications, natural supplements, music therapy, horseback riding....you name it.
So here is my panic: He is 10, in a 14 year old boy body with the social/emotional skills of a 4 year old. Recently he started to have pimples and started talking about ...mating (his words). I know he comes from a place of complete naiveness but I also know that once you are a teen and grown-up no one cares why you say or do the things you say or do. I am trying to get him to understand that if he hits or bites or talks to others about 'mating' they will call the police. I am afraid that it is beyond his capacity to get this. Any proactive advice on what to do before the s..t hits the fan?