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<blockquote data-quote="tired Cheryl" data-source="post: 85720" data-attributes="member: 4109"><p>Another technique that I a have been using with success most recently is removing <strong><u>me</u></strong> from the situation whenever possible.</p><p></p><p>For example, difficult child has a particular way that he want his chocolate milk prepared every morning (known only to him) and I get it wrong every day which leads to explosion number one of the day.</p><p></p><p>So, I decided to give him the milk, several cups, spoons, forks, and chocolate (lots of napkins too.) The first day he got all wound up and started yelling at me for making his milk the wrong way yet again. Well, I calmly reminded him that I had nothing to do with it. That caused him to sit and think long enough for me to remove milk and other items that he was ready to throw. He had moderate meltdown but did stay in his room. The good news is that we have not had another chocolate milk meltdown all week. This is huge. Hope that it lasts.</p><p></p><p>Same thing with getting dressed. Now instead of asking or telling him to get dressed I just leave his clothes out on his bed and mention casually that his clothes for the day are on his bed. Almost every day this week he has gone to his room within 15 minutes and dressed himself (which then I praise him for exuberantly), this has never happened before.</p><p></p><p>Just thought I would pass this on to you. Maybe it will help?</p><p> I know that I am the focus or target=(victim) of 90% of the meltdowns at home so, I am trying to remove myself from the equation. Even small improvements seem like huge victories some days.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="tired Cheryl, post: 85720, member: 4109"] Another technique that I a have been using with success most recently is removing [b]<u>me</u>[/b] from the situation whenever possible. For example, difficult child has a particular way that he want his chocolate milk prepared every morning (known only to him) and I get it wrong every day which leads to explosion number one of the day. So, I decided to give him the milk, several cups, spoons, forks, and chocolate (lots of napkins too.) The first day he got all wound up and started yelling at me for making his milk the wrong way yet again. Well, I calmly reminded him that I had nothing to do with it. That caused him to sit and think long enough for me to remove milk and other items that he was ready to throw. He had moderate meltdown but did stay in his room. The good news is that we have not had another chocolate milk meltdown all week. This is huge. Hope that it lasts. Same thing with getting dressed. Now instead of asking or telling him to get dressed I just leave his clothes out on his bed and mention casually that his clothes for the day are on his bed. Almost every day this week he has gone to his room within 15 minutes and dressed himself (which then I praise him for exuberantly), this has never happened before. Just thought I would pass this on to you. Maybe it will help? I know that I am the focus or target=(victim) of 90% of the meltdowns at home so, I am trying to remove myself from the equation. Even small improvements seem like huge victories some days. [/QUOTE]
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