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<blockquote data-quote="1905" data-source="post: 447015" data-attributes="member: 2668"><p>I think you're going to have to have a totally different kind of discussion with him than you normally have. To him, it's just like Charlie Brown's teacher....blah, blah, blah...he can pull any excuse out and not do anything to help, or to pay his way.</p><p></p><p>You have to show him how because of the Aspie factor. Get the paper and circle some places he can rent, that he can afford. Show him how he can afford it. My easy child spent $16 on food his first day of work, he only makes $11 an hour, he said he's never doing that again. Billy can do this, buy 1lb of sliced turkey breast, 1/2lb of cheese, lettuce, rolls...he can eat all week on $12. That'll save a lot of money. </p><p>He doesn't help you or himself, or help out with the chores, so the $5 a day agreement you had is out the window. Let him pay you what the rent really should be, or he can leave. I know it took him awhile to reach certain milestones like a steady job, and driving, but he still has to keep moving forward. You and Tony won't be around forever he has to be able to take care of himself. If he moves in with his girlfriend, he has to contribute or he'll be right back at your doorstep, she won't put up with supporting him while he spends all his money on himself. Janet, you have to be firm. You'll be doing him a huge service.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="1905, post: 447015, member: 2668"] I think you're going to have to have a totally different kind of discussion with him than you normally have. To him, it's just like Charlie Brown's teacher....blah, blah, blah...he can pull any excuse out and not do anything to help, or to pay his way. You have to show him how because of the Aspie factor. Get the paper and circle some places he can rent, that he can afford. Show him how he can afford it. My easy child spent $16 on food his first day of work, he only makes $11 an hour, he said he's never doing that again. Billy can do this, buy 1lb of sliced turkey breast, 1/2lb of cheese, lettuce, rolls...he can eat all week on $12. That'll save a lot of money. He doesn't help you or himself, or help out with the chores, so the $5 a day agreement you had is out the window. Let him pay you what the rent really should be, or he can leave. I know it took him awhile to reach certain milestones like a steady job, and driving, but he still has to keep moving forward. You and Tony won't be around forever he has to be able to take care of himself. If he moves in with his girlfriend, he has to contribute or he'll be right back at your doorstep, she won't put up with supporting him while he spends all his money on himself. Janet, you have to be firm. You'll be doing him a huge service. [/QUOTE]
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