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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 562292" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>Is there any way that you and husband can get legal guardianship so that you can make this decision? Or would it be best to make darn sure that she cannot easily get to your home and then wash your hands of her? given the danger she presents to the family, a protective order would likely be obtainable. Esp if you can get unbamboozled staff/docs to tell the court that she is a danger to you.</p><p></p><p>I don't think that even with legal guardianship that you can force birth control. I completely HATE our system where we are legally liable for anything they do, inclluding having chldren, until they are 18 and even until 21 in some states. We have to pay and deal with it all, but we don't get to make this decision. It just creates another generation of kids with severe problems. I was astounded to learn that most docs will NOT follow a parents' requests even in kids as young as 12. Esp in some states where they can flat out refuse medications and mental health treatment, and can make reproductive decisions, but they cannot leave school or even get a job. </p><p></p><p>I know it is hard, and I am glad that the funds were found to help the rest of the family. I know the devastation that sibling abuse can wreak on a family. I do think that if you push this she will either insist on leaving and having a child and given pregnancy hormones she will be very very violent, esp as she has been using drugs/alcohol. </p><p></p><p>Part of me thinks something like mirena would be a good option, but I also cannot help but wonder if she would try to take it out on her own or to find a different doctor to get them to remove it. </p><p></p><p>Do what you must to protect yourselves from this. the ONLY way she will learn is by experience, and hitting bottom for her will come a long, long, long tme after it does for the rest of the family. I am sorry she is so damaged, but if all this time and therapy hasn't helped at all, then it probably won't make much difference what you do with regards to her. Sometimes you have to just let them figure it out in the hardest most awful ways possible. It hoovers because they hurt so many people on the way.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 562292, member: 1233"] Is there any way that you and husband can get legal guardianship so that you can make this decision? Or would it be best to make darn sure that she cannot easily get to your home and then wash your hands of her? given the danger she presents to the family, a protective order would likely be obtainable. Esp if you can get unbamboozled staff/docs to tell the court that she is a danger to you. I don't think that even with legal guardianship that you can force birth control. I completely HATE our system where we are legally liable for anything they do, inclluding having chldren, until they are 18 and even until 21 in some states. We have to pay and deal with it all, but we don't get to make this decision. It just creates another generation of kids with severe problems. I was astounded to learn that most docs will NOT follow a parents' requests even in kids as young as 12. Esp in some states where they can flat out refuse medications and mental health treatment, and can make reproductive decisions, but they cannot leave school or even get a job. I know it is hard, and I am glad that the funds were found to help the rest of the family. I know the devastation that sibling abuse can wreak on a family. I do think that if you push this she will either insist on leaving and having a child and given pregnancy hormones she will be very very violent, esp as she has been using drugs/alcohol. Part of me thinks something like mirena would be a good option, but I also cannot help but wonder if she would try to take it out on her own or to find a different doctor to get them to remove it. Do what you must to protect yourselves from this. the ONLY way she will learn is by experience, and hitting bottom for her will come a long, long, long tme after it does for the rest of the family. I am sorry she is so damaged, but if all this time and therapy hasn't helped at all, then it probably won't make much difference what you do with regards to her. Sometimes you have to just let them figure it out in the hardest most awful ways possible. It hoovers because they hurt so many people on the way. [/QUOTE]
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