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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 604077" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>I agree that you are dealing with entitled ingrates and you are not being sensitive Since you mentioned this continues to happen with you being on the receiving end of this behavior, I personally would not forgive it and continue. I believe people who are entitled and rude continue that way because others allow it. If you want to continue then so be it. If you don't then, since this scenario is almost played out, and the children would be disappointed, perhaps it's best to simply go through it this last time. However, after the event or the next time it happened, I would state my feelings clearly and say I will not get involved in situations where I am the scapegoat for others rudeness when I am the only one making any attempts to help. I would let them know I think their behavior is rude and unacceptable. You may be unpopular, you may be talked about, you may invite criticism, only you can decide if telling your truth is worth it or not. For me, I have learned that I am the only one who can prevent bad behavior coming directly at me. I have learned not to tolerate it. It can be scary and weird to stop it, but it is also empowering. And, then I am not the recipient of the behavior any longer. I am not a believer in allowing people to treat others in hurtful and disrespectful ways, I believe we have an obligation to ourselves to stand up to that behavior. In many ways my difficult child taught me that.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 604077, member: 13542"] I agree that you are dealing with entitled ingrates and you are not being sensitive Since you mentioned this continues to happen with you being on the receiving end of this behavior, I personally would not forgive it and continue. I believe people who are entitled and rude continue that way because others allow it. If you want to continue then so be it. If you don't then, since this scenario is almost played out, and the children would be disappointed, perhaps it's best to simply go through it this last time. However, after the event or the next time it happened, I would state my feelings clearly and say I will not get involved in situations where I am the scapegoat for others rudeness when I am the only one making any attempts to help. I would let them know I think their behavior is rude and unacceptable. You may be unpopular, you may be talked about, you may invite criticism, only you can decide if telling your truth is worth it or not. For me, I have learned that I am the only one who can prevent bad behavior coming directly at me. I have learned not to tolerate it. It can be scary and weird to stop it, but it is also empowering. And, then I am not the recipient of the behavior any longer. I am not a believer in allowing people to treat others in hurtful and disrespectful ways, I believe we have an obligation to ourselves to stand up to that behavior. In many ways my difficult child taught me that. [/QUOTE]
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