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<blockquote data-quote="flutterbee" data-source="post: 216225"><p>FTN,</p><p></p><p>Your focus needs to come off bio-dad and should be on difficult child. Her dad is her dad - good, bad or otherwise. The more she feels she is in a position to have to defend him, the more she will. Period. My father was an abusive, alcoholic, drug addict. But, I would defend him to the ends of the earth if needed because he was MY dad. Until the day I was mature enough to see it for myself.</p><p></p><p>You've stated in the past that SO hasn't done much in the way of getting difficult child into therapy. If that hasn't changed, it needs to immediately. These arguments with bio-dad and his SO in front of difficult child are damaging and they need to stop.</p><p></p><p>The anger at bio-dad is eating all of you up and is not creating the kind of environment where difficult child feels safe. She needs to feel safe, loved and validated.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="flutterbee, post: 216225"] FTN, Your focus needs to come off bio-dad and should be on difficult child. Her dad is her dad - good, bad or otherwise. The more she feels she is in a position to have to defend him, the more she will. Period. My father was an abusive, alcoholic, drug addict. But, I would defend him to the ends of the earth if needed because he was MY dad. Until the day I was mature enough to see it for myself. You've stated in the past that SO hasn't done much in the way of getting difficult child into therapy. If that hasn't changed, it needs to immediately. These arguments with bio-dad and his SO in front of difficult child are damaging and they need to stop. The anger at bio-dad is eating all of you up and is not creating the kind of environment where difficult child feels safe. She needs to feel safe, loved and validated. [/QUOTE]
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