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<blockquote data-quote="mstang67chic" data-source="post: 322290" data-attributes="member: 2459"><p>After reading more from you, I'm in agreement. Leave. Run. Get out. Do whatever you have to do to distance yourself. Yes, she's your sister and yes you love her. BUT....she's not above extreme violence at the drop of a hat and you DO NOT deserve that! She's an ADULT and it's not your responsibility to run interference for her or to be a buffer. Your only responsibility is keeping yourself safe. What reason is there for drastically altering your own lifestyle just to ensure your own safety in your own home??? </p><p></p><p>I know she's family and you love her but would you put up with this if it was another person in the apartment building? The fact that she's family shouldn't be a reason to put yourself at risk. If you had advertised for a roomate and wound up with someone who acted like this, what would you do? If you're telling yourself, "Well, that's different. Those people wouldn't be family"....WHy? What's different? Because someone is related to you is reason to endure abuse? Nope. You can love your sister from a distance but you can't stay safe up close. Don't let her stay or get another place. She's an ADULT! Her issues are just that.....HERS. Your issues are living your life in a sane and SAFE manner. And by living your life without allowing her to affect it isn't selfish or uncaring. It's realizing that as an adult, it's HER responsibility to conduct herself in a manner that doesn't result in violence or injuries. You can only do so much for a person and I think you reached that point long ago. It's time to do things for YOU now. </p><p></p><p>One of the ladies here has a quote on her signature that says something like "If you continue to do what you've always done, you'll get what you always got." Roughly translated.....if you keep doing the same old thing, it's never going to change. You've done all you can. It's time to live your own life now.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="mstang67chic, post: 322290, member: 2459"] After reading more from you, I'm in agreement. Leave. Run. Get out. Do whatever you have to do to distance yourself. Yes, she's your sister and yes you love her. BUT....she's not above extreme violence at the drop of a hat and you DO NOT deserve that! She's an ADULT and it's not your responsibility to run interference for her or to be a buffer. Your only responsibility is keeping yourself safe. What reason is there for drastically altering your own lifestyle just to ensure your own safety in your own home??? I know she's family and you love her but would you put up with this if it was another person in the apartment building? The fact that she's family shouldn't be a reason to put yourself at risk. If you had advertised for a roomate and wound up with someone who acted like this, what would you do? If you're telling yourself, "Well, that's different. Those people wouldn't be family"....WHy? What's different? Because someone is related to you is reason to endure abuse? Nope. You can love your sister from a distance but you can't stay safe up close. Don't let her stay or get another place. She's an ADULT! Her issues are just that.....HERS. Your issues are living your life in a sane and SAFE manner. And by living your life without allowing her to affect it isn't selfish or uncaring. It's realizing that as an adult, it's HER responsibility to conduct herself in a manner that doesn't result in violence or injuries. You can only do so much for a person and I think you reached that point long ago. It's time to do things for YOU now. One of the ladies here has a quote on her signature that says something like "If you continue to do what you've always done, you'll get what you always got." Roughly translated.....if you keep doing the same old thing, it's never going to change. You've done all you can. It's time to live your own life now. [/QUOTE]
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