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<blockquote data-quote="LittleDudesMom" data-source="post: 112381" data-attributes="member: 805"><p>Linda,</p><p></p><p>Your post really gave me pause. On the one hand I wanted to say "starting your own traditions is what matters". But on the other hand I was feeling "what would I feel like if all the family gatherings (that are meaning to me as well) ceased?"</p><p></p><p>Intellectually we can say that we make our lot in life, we work with what we are given, and we make the choices that dictate the outcomes. But when it comes to matters of the heart, like family traditions, all that c r a p goes out the window! I could tell you that it will be alright, that kt and wm never experienced that stuff so they don't know what they are missing, yadda, yadda. </p><p></p><p>But in reality, your illness has given you time to reflect and think. You are missing that things you have not been able to experience because of your health limitations and now are reflecting on the tweedle impact on your life.</p><p></p><p>I'm not going to pat your knee and say "Oh, it will be alright". But I will tell you that you are doing a remarkable thing in parenting and loving these children who would otherwise probably be lost in a system and living without hope. If husband's family cannot deal with your children, so be it. Perhpas you will need to step in and change a tradition in your family and have one of the holidays hosted at your house.</p><p></p><p>But whatever you decide to do, or whatever you resolve yourself to, I think you can be confident in knowing you are doing right by your children and probably doing what you are supposed to be doing in the "big plan". </p><p></p><p>This illness you are dealing with has been a life-changer for you and for your children. It has affected your entire family. As you begin on the road to recovery, you will begin to find what you have learned through these many months, how you have grown, and what you take with you in the future that has made you stronger.</p><p></p><p>Hugs and love,</p><p>Sharon</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="LittleDudesMom, post: 112381, member: 805"] Linda, Your post really gave me pause. On the one hand I wanted to say "starting your own traditions is what matters". But on the other hand I was feeling "what would I feel like if all the family gatherings (that are meaning to me as well) ceased?" Intellectually we can say that we make our lot in life, we work with what we are given, and we make the choices that dictate the outcomes. But when it comes to matters of the heart, like family traditions, all that c r a p goes out the window! I could tell you that it will be alright, that kt and wm never experienced that stuff so they don't know what they are missing, yadda, yadda. But in reality, your illness has given you time to reflect and think. You are missing that things you have not been able to experience because of your health limitations and now are reflecting on the tweedle impact on your life. I'm not going to pat your knee and say "Oh, it will be alright". But I will tell you that you are doing a remarkable thing in parenting and loving these children who would otherwise probably be lost in a system and living without hope. If husband's family cannot deal with your children, so be it. Perhpas you will need to step in and change a tradition in your family and have one of the holidays hosted at your house. But whatever you decide to do, or whatever you resolve yourself to, I think you can be confident in knowing you are doing right by your children and probably doing what you are supposed to be doing in the "big plan". This illness you are dealing with has been a life-changer for you and for your children. It has affected your entire family. As you begin on the road to recovery, you will begin to find what you have learned through these many months, how you have grown, and what you take with you in the future that has made you stronger. Hugs and love, Sharon [/QUOTE]
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