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<blockquote data-quote="racheline" data-source="post: 313982" data-attributes="member: 8246"><p>Sensory Integration Disorder is one thing that I've been suspicious about but have gone back and fourth because he'll display some "signs" but then seem normal at other times or in other ways. And I'm not sure how or where to have him tested. </p><p></p><p>I even wondered if too much tv was causing him to act these ways but after cutting it down to 2 shows, then 1 shows then no tv at all for awhile - he actually got WORSE even after being used to no tv for weeks and weeks. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>When he was younger I was scared he had autism because he'd line up his cars in a row from largest to smallest - all across the room - for hours and hours. I don't know about speech delays. All I know is that when he "goes into himself" - when he's upset about something - he will NOT talk normally - he does this "growling" thing and you can hardly understand him. I recognize many behaviors related to autism (because my cousin is autistic and so is my very good friend's son). He doesn't have many of the obvious ones (like standing on tippie-toes or flapping arms or rocking). When I call him it seems he CANNOT just come - he ALWAYS HAS TO do or get something first. Even if he's totally un-interested in his hot-wheel cars at the time - if I call him - he suddenly freaks out and acts like he's never going to see his cars again unless he grabs them right then. </p><p></p><p>He sneaks into the kitchen and takes food that he will eat in his closet, under the table - I SWEAR we do not starve this kid - in encouraging him to ASK first - we usually let him have what he wants as long as it's not candy, chocolate, etc... I try not to buy anything he can't have. He's given plenty of yummy AND healthy snacks, three meals, water and occasional all natural juice (watered down a bit). </p><p></p><p>When we are with other children he'll be VERY shy if he does not know them - sometimes even if he does. With his cousins who he knows very well he will become over-excited to see them, very loud, very physical -running, etc. </p><p></p><p>I don't know - I assume if he has anything it is a mild version/case - but still - I think there is something setting things off and I'm dying to know what to do for him. I'd like to do more crafts and games with him but it is sooo difficult once he's excited about something like that - and even to correct him in anything (like "let's use less glue" or "let's cut the part we're supposed to" - then he shuts off/down and our fun time is over pretty much). </p><p></p><p>He also LOVES to get the baby to crawl into a bedroom (his, hers or even mom and dad's) and then shut the door and he'll try to do things to her he knows are not allowed - which often involves hurting her, piling up blankets or clothes on her. Today he shoved cold scrambled eggs from his breakfast plate into her mouth and up her nose - poor little gal. I think he views her as a doll in a way? I admit I almost lost it with him (it is very hard to see you child get hurt - even when it's your other child doing it!) - but tried to just calm down and explain to him that she is not a dolly and we cannot put things in her mouth, on top of her, etc. I feel like it's useless to even tell him that. It's like he's not hearing me. He wouldn't look at me, and was just too upset to really hear me. I may try having a talk with him later while he's in a good mood. I've just got to help him understand this. He's so fast and I'm so afraid even when I'm right there with them - that she'll get seriously hurt one day.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="racheline, post: 313982, member: 8246"] Sensory Integration Disorder is one thing that I've been suspicious about but have gone back and fourth because he'll display some "signs" but then seem normal at other times or in other ways. And I'm not sure how or where to have him tested. I even wondered if too much tv was causing him to act these ways but after cutting it down to 2 shows, then 1 shows then no tv at all for awhile - he actually got WORSE even after being used to no tv for weeks and weeks. When he was younger I was scared he had autism because he'd line up his cars in a row from largest to smallest - all across the room - for hours and hours. I don't know about speech delays. All I know is that when he "goes into himself" - when he's upset about something - he will NOT talk normally - he does this "growling" thing and you can hardly understand him. I recognize many behaviors related to autism (because my cousin is autistic and so is my very good friend's son). He doesn't have many of the obvious ones (like standing on tippie-toes or flapping arms or rocking). When I call him it seems he CANNOT just come - he ALWAYS HAS TO do or get something first. Even if he's totally un-interested in his hot-wheel cars at the time - if I call him - he suddenly freaks out and acts like he's never going to see his cars again unless he grabs them right then. He sneaks into the kitchen and takes food that he will eat in his closet, under the table - I SWEAR we do not starve this kid - in encouraging him to ASK first - we usually let him have what he wants as long as it's not candy, chocolate, etc... I try not to buy anything he can't have. He's given plenty of yummy AND healthy snacks, three meals, water and occasional all natural juice (watered down a bit). When we are with other children he'll be VERY shy if he does not know them - sometimes even if he does. With his cousins who he knows very well he will become over-excited to see them, very loud, very physical -running, etc. I don't know - I assume if he has anything it is a mild version/case - but still - I think there is something setting things off and I'm dying to know what to do for him. I'd like to do more crafts and games with him but it is sooo difficult once he's excited about something like that - and even to correct him in anything (like "let's use less glue" or "let's cut the part we're supposed to" - then he shuts off/down and our fun time is over pretty much). He also LOVES to get the baby to crawl into a bedroom (his, hers or even mom and dad's) and then shut the door and he'll try to do things to her he knows are not allowed - which often involves hurting her, piling up blankets or clothes on her. Today he shoved cold scrambled eggs from his breakfast plate into her mouth and up her nose - poor little gal. I think he views her as a doll in a way? I admit I almost lost it with him (it is very hard to see you child get hurt - even when it's your other child doing it!) - but tried to just calm down and explain to him that she is not a dolly and we cannot put things in her mouth, on top of her, etc. I feel like it's useless to even tell him that. It's like he's not hearing me. He wouldn't look at me, and was just too upset to really hear me. I may try having a talk with him later while he's in a good mood. I've just got to help him understand this. He's so fast and I'm so afraid even when I'm right there with them - that she'll get seriously hurt one day. [/QUOTE]
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