Just as I feared, husband and I took our dream vacation (a month in Europe) and younger DGD spiraled out of control. The writing was on the wall before we left, once she had turned 18. We had planned to have an adult spend nights in our home so she could stay here, but DGD wasn't coming home most nights so we nixed that.
Arrangements were made for her to stay with her dad or her sister. But she stayed with her current boyfriend most of the first one or two weeks. Then her Xbf (who helped her run away as a young teen, introduced her to meth) ended up in jail on 7/4 for domestic violence against his wife. DGD must have bailed him out and picked him up from jail. She kept bringing Xbf to where her sister lived with other roommates, so she had to leave there.
No one wanted Xbf in their homes, so they started living out of her car. Then a girl, a friend of his wife jumped her and beat her up, breaking her nose and 2 black eyes. He witnessed this, did not intervene, and then left with his wife. She texted me and said it was the worst week of her life. She was broke.
I emailed her court services officer, he called her in, she was actively high and tested positive for cocaine. He called her dad to pick her up. Things went better when she stayed with her dad. But she got drawn back in to Xbf.
Now we have been home from vacation for 3 days. She no longer has a job, any money, totalled her car, bruised up from crash, has ticket for reckless driving and disobeying stop sign. I don't know if she was under influence or not. I do know lab was done in the emergency room... I don't know what tests or results.
I do know that she has been manipulated by this creep. We have set firm boundaries. He is not allowed on our property. We have declined when she asks for a ride, if it involves him going along. NO money. No food...unless she comes to our house and eats it here. No taking leftovers with her. She told us... If I eat, he eats. If he can't eat, I won't eat. We Didn't budge. Neither did DGD.
It's so hard... But we will stand our ground. I am having problems sleeping... Partially because of jet lag but mostly because i can't turn off my brain.
I am hoping and praying he gets locked up when he goes to court in a few days for domestic violence. His wife ended up admitted to hospital for two days after he beat her. But she still went back to him. This has been a wash, rinse, repeat cycle for 4 years between DGD, his girlfriend/now wife, and this POS...
Ksm
Arrangements were made for her to stay with her dad or her sister. But she stayed with her current boyfriend most of the first one or two weeks. Then her Xbf (who helped her run away as a young teen, introduced her to meth) ended up in jail on 7/4 for domestic violence against his wife. DGD must have bailed him out and picked him up from jail. She kept bringing Xbf to where her sister lived with other roommates, so she had to leave there.
No one wanted Xbf in their homes, so they started living out of her car. Then a girl, a friend of his wife jumped her and beat her up, breaking her nose and 2 black eyes. He witnessed this, did not intervene, and then left with his wife. She texted me and said it was the worst week of her life. She was broke.
I emailed her court services officer, he called her in, she was actively high and tested positive for cocaine. He called her dad to pick her up. Things went better when she stayed with her dad. But she got drawn back in to Xbf.
Now we have been home from vacation for 3 days. She no longer has a job, any money, totalled her car, bruised up from crash, has ticket for reckless driving and disobeying stop sign. I don't know if she was under influence or not. I do know lab was done in the emergency room... I don't know what tests or results.
I do know that she has been manipulated by this creep. We have set firm boundaries. He is not allowed on our property. We have declined when she asks for a ride, if it involves him going along. NO money. No food...unless she comes to our house and eats it here. No taking leftovers with her. She told us... If I eat, he eats. If he can't eat, I won't eat. We Didn't budge. Neither did DGD.
It's so hard... But we will stand our ground. I am having problems sleeping... Partially because of jet lag but mostly because i can't turn off my brain.
I am hoping and praying he gets locked up when he goes to court in a few days for domestic violence. His wife ended up admitted to hospital for two days after he beat her. But she still went back to him. This has been a wash, rinse, repeat cycle for 4 years between DGD, his girlfriend/now wife, and this POS...
Ksm