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<blockquote data-quote="welcometowitsend" data-source="post: 591011" data-attributes="member: 14356"><p>MWM - Your SportsFan sounds like an older version of what my difficult child could become. Sigh. I am so sorry he is being so abusive towards you. The others in your family have tired of his abuse and refuse to have anything to do with him but you do not want to give up on your son. I totally get that. </p><p></p><p>I don't think your difficult child really knows what he wants. He wants advice but doesn't take it, he wants support but not solutions or ideas on compromise, he wants you to fix everything but won't take 'the fix' and make use of it when you get it for him - whether it be a date or legal information. </p><p></p><p>Even though he is 35 he is very immature and so self centered. He may very well be an alcoholic from the information you have given and what your daughter has said. I do hope you get to the Al-Anon meetings and I hope that the group there is a good fit for you and gives you the support and respite that you need. We found a great parent support group near us and it has really helped a lot to have that 'face-to-face' support that you talk about in addition to the amazing support that is offered here. </p><p></p><p>Hugs to you. For your sake and for his please don't let him do this to you even more. You don't have to cut him off - but when he calls and he is abusive just tell him you can't listen to this, it's not healthy for you and you have to go. Hopefully, eventually, he will get the hint that his behaviour doesn't get him what he wants. </p><p></p><p><img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/smile.png" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":smile:" title="smile :smile:" data-shortname=":smile:" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="welcometowitsend, post: 591011, member: 14356"] MWM - Your SportsFan sounds like an older version of what my difficult child could become. Sigh. I am so sorry he is being so abusive towards you. The others in your family have tired of his abuse and refuse to have anything to do with him but you do not want to give up on your son. I totally get that. I don't think your difficult child really knows what he wants. He wants advice but doesn't take it, he wants support but not solutions or ideas on compromise, he wants you to fix everything but won't take 'the fix' and make use of it when you get it for him - whether it be a date or legal information. Even though he is 35 he is very immature and so self centered. He may very well be an alcoholic from the information you have given and what your daughter has said. I do hope you get to the Al-Anon meetings and I hope that the group there is a good fit for you and gives you the support and respite that you need. We found a great parent support group near us and it has really helped a lot to have that 'face-to-face' support that you talk about in addition to the amazing support that is offered here. Hugs to you. For your sake and for his please don't let him do this to you even more. You don't have to cut him off - but when he calls and he is abusive just tell him you can't listen to this, it's not healthy for you and you have to go. Hopefully, eventually, he will get the hint that his behaviour doesn't get him what he wants. :smile: [/QUOTE]
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