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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 295680" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>Susie* - </p><p> </p><p>I really think I have a handle on this and a solution for you, buttheadbrother and co-dependent Mom. NEVER engage in a phone conversation with your brother again - WRITE OUT any further requests via MOms asking and copy it to him and her. </p><p> </p><p>I would cut him off on any phone conversations - by saying - OMG the dog is on fire GOTTA GO - sorry - LOVE you MWAH - later...and hang up. </p><p> </p><p>Anything where MOm says "Please ask your brother he's left out " SURE MOM - and then I would - WRITE IT OUT - send copy to brother - send copy to Mommie - and thus avoid ANY he said SHE said - I wouldn't put THAT part in it either. For example: </p><p> </p><p>Dear Judas: </p><p> </p><p>Mom called and said we could count on you for help with the trash hauling. I thought her idea was such a beautiful and caring one I wanted to make sure she knew how I felt so I'm sending her a copy of this letter as well!!! I'm thankful that I have a family that cares. </p><p> </p><p>I have two months of trash that needs to be hauled off. I am hoping that you are able to use Moms van (we are happy to pay for your time and gas in cash) How does $XX sound? husband said that he and the kids will be here between XX time or XX time which ever is most convenient for you. After you are done - I will have sandwhiches if you want to stay, then we are off to church. If you are unable to make it would you please call Mom and let her know?? We're not always home and our answering machine is on the fritz - but Mom and I always seem to connect. That way I'll know when to expect you and we'll be able to have things ready for you. </p><p> </p><p>This is wonderful what you are doing. We appreciate you so much. We're lucky to have a Mom that cares aren't we?? Thanks again! </p><p> </p><p>Much appreciation - </p><p>Susie* </p><p> </p><p>See?????? You - Thank your MOM -- Since it was HER idea to make HIM the center of ATTENTION - YOU PUT it back on HER and YOU MAKE HER MAKE HIM THE CENTER OF ATTENTION - you make HER MAKE THE PLANS - YOU MAKE HER RESPONSIBLE FOR HIM GETTING THERE - YOU MAKE HER RESPONSIBLE FOR USING HER VAN - YOU MAKE HER SEE THAT YOU OFFER TO PAY HIM - YOU MAKE HER SEE THAT YOU ARE GIVING HIM A CHOICE OF TIMES AND DAYS - YOU MAKE HER CALL YOU WITH HIS SCHEDULING TIME SO THAT WHEN HE DOESN"T SHOW HE CALLS HER - NOT YOU - AND HE WOULD HAVE TO TELL HER - WHY.....NOT YOU.....THEN YOU TELL HIM AND HER YOU APPRECIATE IT...NO ONE COMES BACK TO MUMMY AS A MARTYR CRYING YOU WEREN"T APPRECIATED.....OR UNWANTED.....AND you also invite him to stay for a bologna sandwhich and get him OUT by telling them you had a date of GOING TO CHURCH.....</p><p> </p><p>WRITE THE LETTER - <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/smug.png" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":smug:" title="smug :smug:" data-shortname=":smug:" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 295680, member: 4964"] Susie* - I really think I have a handle on this and a solution for you, buttheadbrother and co-dependent Mom. NEVER engage in a phone conversation with your brother again - WRITE OUT any further requests via MOms asking and copy it to him and her. I would cut him off on any phone conversations - by saying - OMG the dog is on fire GOTTA GO - sorry - LOVE you MWAH - later...and hang up. Anything where MOm says "Please ask your brother he's left out " SURE MOM - and then I would - WRITE IT OUT - send copy to brother - send copy to Mommie - and thus avoid ANY he said SHE said - I wouldn't put THAT part in it either. For example: Dear Judas: Mom called and said we could count on you for help with the trash hauling. I thought her idea was such a beautiful and caring one I wanted to make sure she knew how I felt so I'm sending her a copy of this letter as well!!! I'm thankful that I have a family that cares. I have two months of trash that needs to be hauled off. I am hoping that you are able to use Moms van (we are happy to pay for your time and gas in cash) How does $XX sound? husband said that he and the kids will be here between XX time or XX time which ever is most convenient for you. After you are done - I will have sandwhiches if you want to stay, then we are off to church. If you are unable to make it would you please call Mom and let her know?? We're not always home and our answering machine is on the fritz - but Mom and I always seem to connect. That way I'll know when to expect you and we'll be able to have things ready for you. This is wonderful what you are doing. We appreciate you so much. We're lucky to have a Mom that cares aren't we?? Thanks again! Much appreciation - Susie* See?????? You - Thank your MOM -- Since it was HER idea to make HIM the center of ATTENTION - YOU PUT it back on HER and YOU MAKE HER MAKE HIM THE CENTER OF ATTENTION - you make HER MAKE THE PLANS - YOU MAKE HER RESPONSIBLE FOR HIM GETTING THERE - YOU MAKE HER RESPONSIBLE FOR USING HER VAN - YOU MAKE HER SEE THAT YOU OFFER TO PAY HIM - YOU MAKE HER SEE THAT YOU ARE GIVING HIM A CHOICE OF TIMES AND DAYS - YOU MAKE HER CALL YOU WITH HIS SCHEDULING TIME SO THAT WHEN HE DOESN"T SHOW HE CALLS HER - NOT YOU - AND HE WOULD HAVE TO TELL HER - WHY.....NOT YOU.....THEN YOU TELL HIM AND HER YOU APPRECIATE IT...NO ONE COMES BACK TO MUMMY AS A MARTYR CRYING YOU WEREN"T APPRECIATED.....OR UNWANTED.....AND you also invite him to stay for a bologna sandwhich and get him OUT by telling them you had a date of GOING TO CHURCH..... WRITE THE LETTER - :smart: [/QUOTE]
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