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<blockquote data-quote="TerryJ2" data-source="post: 232890" data-attributes="member: 3419"><p>Hi, Imgoingtofix this, welcome.</p><p>My son's anger, in general, is much better lately. We changed his diet, and that helped a lot. He is on medications, but we have also done a lot of behavior modification. I had to change a lot of my own behaviors in the way I dealt with-him. He is so literal, that I assumed he was always being a brat, and splitting hairs to annoy me. I was wrong. He's Aspie Lite. He really has to have the last word and thinks differently than I do. Very differently.</p><p>I agree with-others here, the ODD is a symptom, not a cause. I also agree that your son could be having some anxiety issues.</p><p>One thing I had to learn to do was find my son doing something right. Since he was so loud, wild, crazy and rude all the time, it was like Mission Impossible, but I finally found some minor things, and that really helped change things around.</p><p>Sometimes it would be something small like keeping his voice down. I'd reward him with some TV.</p><p>When I used to put him in Silent Time Out in the car, I'd steam all the way home, then send him to his room, too. Now, it's just Time Out. When we get home, I'll say, "Thank you for being quiet in the car. You did a good job. Please write I AM SORRY FOR BEING RUDE, 20X on a piece of paper, and then you can play on the computer."</p><p>I needed to reward him, and quickly. I had no idea that he really couldn't comprehend long-term punishments.</p><p>He's 12 now, and just learning to deal with-weeks and months.</p><p> </p><p>Having your son deliver the note of apology was a good idea. I would tell him that he did the right thing and that I'm proud of him. It will hurt your teeth to say it, since he was rude to begin with, but you've got to. There's got to be an immediate cause and effect.</p><p>There is a future. Really.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="TerryJ2, post: 232890, member: 3419"] Hi, Imgoingtofix this, welcome. My son's anger, in general, is much better lately. We changed his diet, and that helped a lot. He is on medications, but we have also done a lot of behavior modification. I had to change a lot of my own behaviors in the way I dealt with-him. He is so literal, that I assumed he was always being a brat, and splitting hairs to annoy me. I was wrong. He's Aspie Lite. He really has to have the last word and thinks differently than I do. Very differently. I agree with-others here, the ODD is a symptom, not a cause. I also agree that your son could be having some anxiety issues. One thing I had to learn to do was find my son doing something right. Since he was so loud, wild, crazy and rude all the time, it was like Mission Impossible, but I finally found some minor things, and that really helped change things around. Sometimes it would be something small like keeping his voice down. I'd reward him with some TV. When I used to put him in Silent Time Out in the car, I'd steam all the way home, then send him to his room, too. Now, it's just Time Out. When we get home, I'll say, "Thank you for being quiet in the car. You did a good job. Please write I AM SORRY FOR BEING RUDE, 20X on a piece of paper, and then you can play on the computer." I needed to reward him, and quickly. I had no idea that he really couldn't comprehend long-term punishments. He's 12 now, and just learning to deal with-weeks and months. Having your son deliver the note of apology was a good idea. I would tell him that he did the right thing and that I'm proud of him. It will hurt your teeth to say it, since he was rude to begin with, but you've got to. There's got to be an immediate cause and effect. There is a future. Really. [/QUOTE]
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