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it seriously never ends/medication change with-no notification
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<blockquote data-quote="Andy" data-source="post: 383331" data-attributes="member: 5096"><p>Does the doctor even have difficult child's past medical info? I am sure that was given during the intake process. I often wonder if some docs even bother to read history in any depth.</p><p> </p><p>I am thinking that it may be beneficial for you to write down everything you have given difficult child and how each one effected her.</p><p> </p><p>Write down things that they do not seem to be taking into account (even if they have it in her records) and present everything to the doctor.</p><p> </p><p>Keep a copy for yourself and date it. That way they have to acknowledge that you gave them the information you believed was the most critical to help difficult child.</p><p> </p><p>Include her interests and what she is good at which should be part of her recovery. They need to know her as an entire person - not just the hard to deal with part. </p><p> </p><p>I know their job is to work on why she is there but I also believe the more you know about a kid (good and bad), the easier it is to see the "bad" as a challenge that is blocking the "good" - a challenge that must be tackled and the "good" upheld.</p><p> </p><p>She is very strong willed - so are my two kids. I always told my kids that they can use that strong willed side to fight anything. They can use it to better their lives instead of holding themselves back. However, along with that, she also needs to trust people which may be the first step right now. She feels at a loss right now - she is not able to see you and she still doesn't feel the motivation of the facility staff is to help her.</p><p> </p><p>It is good the nurse got her through something without medications. When difficult child was hospitalized, we had a similar situation. He was very anxious and refused the medication to calm him. I was very proud of him for doing so as I told the staff that if the night staff would have listened to him and let him know they understood/cared, he may have taken it. I hated that the night/weekend staff seemed not to work with him on his tools - they just wanted to drug him and get him back to bed. He felt that way also and knew that the automatic giving of medications was a cop out on their part and he wasn't going to allow that. And all they had to do was sit and talk a few minutes and ask him again after explaining why they wanted to give it and he may not have bulked it and maybe not even have needed it.</p><p> </p><p>You may want to also talk to the head nurse about their policy of medication changes with minors. I think if memory serves me right, I was always informed about medication changes and either signed something or gave verbal consent over the phone.</p><p>We were so new to any medications that I was too inexperienced to really know to disagree so I just went with the flow and forgot about it. You have experienced so many different medications with negative outcomes that you do need to stay on your toes about what is going on with her medications. The doctor should be happy that you can remember each one and want to be part of the process.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Andy, post: 383331, member: 5096"] Does the doctor even have difficult child's past medical info? I am sure that was given during the intake process. I often wonder if some docs even bother to read history in any depth. I am thinking that it may be beneficial for you to write down everything you have given difficult child and how each one effected her. Write down things that they do not seem to be taking into account (even if they have it in her records) and present everything to the doctor. Keep a copy for yourself and date it. That way they have to acknowledge that you gave them the information you believed was the most critical to help difficult child. Include her interests and what she is good at which should be part of her recovery. They need to know her as an entire person - not just the hard to deal with part. I know their job is to work on why she is there but I also believe the more you know about a kid (good and bad), the easier it is to see the "bad" as a challenge that is blocking the "good" - a challenge that must be tackled and the "good" upheld. She is very strong willed - so are my two kids. I always told my kids that they can use that strong willed side to fight anything. They can use it to better their lives instead of holding themselves back. However, along with that, she also needs to trust people which may be the first step right now. She feels at a loss right now - she is not able to see you and she still doesn't feel the motivation of the facility staff is to help her. It is good the nurse got her through something without medications. When difficult child was hospitalized, we had a similar situation. He was very anxious and refused the medication to calm him. I was very proud of him for doing so as I told the staff that if the night staff would have listened to him and let him know they understood/cared, he may have taken it. I hated that the night/weekend staff seemed not to work with him on his tools - they just wanted to drug him and get him back to bed. He felt that way also and knew that the automatic giving of medications was a cop out on their part and he wasn't going to allow that. And all they had to do was sit and talk a few minutes and ask him again after explaining why they wanted to give it and he may not have bulked it and maybe not even have needed it. You may want to also talk to the head nurse about their policy of medication changes with minors. I think if memory serves me right, I was always informed about medication changes and either signed something or gave verbal consent over the phone. We were so new to any medications that I was too inexperienced to really know to disagree so I just went with the flow and forgot about it. You have experienced so many different medications with negative outcomes that you do need to stay on your toes about what is going on with her medications. The doctor should be happy that you can remember each one and want to be part of the process. [/QUOTE]
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