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It started with poop and progressed to ODD? (I'm sorry it's long)
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 603589" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Hi there. Welcome to the board, although sorry you had to be here.</p><p></p><p>My first suggestion would be to see a neuropsychologist for a good, thorough evaluation. ODD is pretty useless, mostly used by therapists and not those who really test and know how to evaluate. He has a lot of symptoms of high functioning autism, which can look like defiance, but isn't. Also, along with that possibility, late pottying can mean sensory disorders which can stop a child from knowing when he has to go...or from not liking the feel of the toilet. I would not ask him why he does this or that...he probably has no idea. None of this is his fault and kids don't wake up each day wondering how to make us miserable. If they can do well, they do! <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /> </p><p></p><p>Instead of trying to figure him out yourself, I recommend a high level professional. As stated above, I prefer neuropsychs for diagnosing. Psychiatrists are also legally able to diagnose, but often miss neurological problems, such as Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD). Your child sounds frustrated, not "bad."</p><p></p><p>Typical parenting such as reward charts and stickers almost never work with our differently wired kids. You need to seek help...help who understands and will think outside the box. You may want to buy Ross Greene's "The Explosive Child" to better understand yours and to take the pressure off of him and yourself. </p><p></p><p>It is very hard for our differently wired children to adjust to change so it is best to do it slowly or at least talk about it and show them pictures in advance. That may help, may not help. Your child's lack of social skills is not likely due to which kids are there or not there...it is probably part of his problem, whatever it turns out to be. It is not his fault or your fault or anyone's fault. It's just how he is. </p><p></p><p>I would start on the professional path right away because early intervention has the best outcome. Therapists are not useful in diagnosing.</p><p></p><p>I'm glad you found us, but very sorry that you had to. However, trust me, we understand and have been there and many of us are STILL there.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 603589, member: 1550"] Hi there. Welcome to the board, although sorry you had to be here. My first suggestion would be to see a neuropsychologist for a good, thorough evaluation. ODD is pretty useless, mostly used by therapists and not those who really test and know how to evaluate. He has a lot of symptoms of high functioning autism, which can look like defiance, but isn't. Also, along with that possibility, late pottying can mean sensory disorders which can stop a child from knowing when he has to go...or from not liking the feel of the toilet. I would not ask him why he does this or that...he probably has no idea. None of this is his fault and kids don't wake up each day wondering how to make us miserable. If they can do well, they do! :) Instead of trying to figure him out yourself, I recommend a high level professional. As stated above, I prefer neuropsychs for diagnosing. Psychiatrists are also legally able to diagnose, but often miss neurological problems, such as Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD). Your child sounds frustrated, not "bad." Typical parenting such as reward charts and stickers almost never work with our differently wired kids. You need to seek help...help who understands and will think outside the box. You may want to buy Ross Greene's "The Explosive Child" to better understand yours and to take the pressure off of him and yourself. It is very hard for our differently wired children to adjust to change so it is best to do it slowly or at least talk about it and show them pictures in advance. That may help, may not help. Your child's lack of social skills is not likely due to which kids are there or not there...it is probably part of his problem, whatever it turns out to be. It is not his fault or your fault or anyone's fault. It's just how he is. I would start on the professional path right away because early intervention has the best outcome. Therapists are not useful in diagnosing. I'm glad you found us, but very sorry that you had to. However, trust me, we understand and have been there and many of us are STILL there. [/QUOTE]
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