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It started with poop and progressed to ODD? (I'm sorry it's long)
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<blockquote data-quote="TeDo" data-source="post: 603613" data-attributes="member: 15799"><p>I would start with a thorough exam by a proctologist. That would confirm or eliminate a physical reason for fecal incontinence. </p><p></p><p>I highly recommend you also have him THOROUGHLY evaluated by a pediatric Occupational Therapist. I agree with MWM that is sounds like there is probably a lot of sensory stuff going on. My son acted out big time over certain smells, people touching him, too much noise, etc. We found a good Occupational Therapist (OT) that tested for EVERYTHING, including things I never would have thought of. My son was diagnosed with ODD in 3rd grade. We got an IEP and things improved a little. Got to middle school and their "philosophy" and approach to ODD was to rule with a heavy hand and "show him who's boss". That caused almost daily suspensions of some kind, mediation with the state Department of Education, and my withdrawing him from that school because he'd become so depressed over not being able to do anything right that he couldn't function AT ALL. This Occupational Therapist (OT) discovered the issue with the sounds and smells. She found that black words on white paper looked like squiggling worms to his brain. His brain didn't register when his pencil was touching the paper so he wrote WAY to hard and was on the verge of carpal tunnel at the age of 11. I tell you this to show that there's more reasons that you might think for a lot of behavior. </p><p></p><p>I second MWM's suggestion to have him evaluated by a pediatric neuropsychologist. We found a very reputable one at our state children's hospital. He was AWESOME and thorough. He was the one that figured out that ALL of difficult child 1's issues were caused by Autism Spectrum Disorder. My son thinks VERY differently that most. He has a hard time putting his thoughts and feelings into words and acts out instead. We are working on identifying, expressing, and dealing with emotions. He is being taught social "rules", how to talk to other people, how to play with other people, how to SHARE and TAKE TURNS with other people, how other people see situations, how other people feel, etc. He has to be actively taught these things. </p><p></p><p>Lastly, I would submit a request to your local school asking for a thorough evaluation for special education services including THOROUGH academic, psychological, speech, Occupational Therapist (OT), and behavioral testing. Put the request in writing and send it ASAP to the special education director and the superintendent RETURN RECEIPT RQUESTED (ask the post office person to do this). This puts the school on a federal timeline to get the testing done and get a plan in place to HELP your son in school. It also limits the suspensions to 10 days a year and makes the school come up with other ways to deal with his behaviors. Suspending is the easy way out. It would also prevent them from sending him home to "be changed". They would have to come up with a way to deal with it at school. In other words, it makes them work WITH him to teach him what they are supposed to be teaching him.</p><p></p><p>Good luck. You came to the right place for help. This site and the wonderful warrior moms here have gotten me through the worst time in my life with my sanity in place. Their advice is practical and comes from having been there done that. Welcome to the "family". I hope you stick around.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="TeDo, post: 603613, member: 15799"] I would start with a thorough exam by a proctologist. That would confirm or eliminate a physical reason for fecal incontinence. I highly recommend you also have him THOROUGHLY evaluated by a pediatric Occupational Therapist. I agree with MWM that is sounds like there is probably a lot of sensory stuff going on. My son acted out big time over certain smells, people touching him, too much noise, etc. We found a good Occupational Therapist (OT) that tested for EVERYTHING, including things I never would have thought of. My son was diagnosed with ODD in 3rd grade. We got an IEP and things improved a little. Got to middle school and their "philosophy" and approach to ODD was to rule with a heavy hand and "show him who's boss". That caused almost daily suspensions of some kind, mediation with the state Department of Education, and my withdrawing him from that school because he'd become so depressed over not being able to do anything right that he couldn't function AT ALL. This Occupational Therapist (OT) discovered the issue with the sounds and smells. She found that black words on white paper looked like squiggling worms to his brain. His brain didn't register when his pencil was touching the paper so he wrote WAY to hard and was on the verge of carpal tunnel at the age of 11. I tell you this to show that there's more reasons that you might think for a lot of behavior. I second MWM's suggestion to have him evaluated by a pediatric neuropsychologist. We found a very reputable one at our state children's hospital. He was AWESOME and thorough. He was the one that figured out that ALL of difficult child 1's issues were caused by Autism Spectrum Disorder. My son thinks VERY differently that most. He has a hard time putting his thoughts and feelings into words and acts out instead. We are working on identifying, expressing, and dealing with emotions. He is being taught social "rules", how to talk to other people, how to play with other people, how to SHARE and TAKE TURNS with other people, how other people see situations, how other people feel, etc. He has to be actively taught these things. Lastly, I would submit a request to your local school asking for a thorough evaluation for special education services including THOROUGH academic, psychological, speech, Occupational Therapist (OT), and behavioral testing. Put the request in writing and send it ASAP to the special education director and the superintendent RETURN RECEIPT RQUESTED (ask the post office person to do this). This puts the school on a federal timeline to get the testing done and get a plan in place to HELP your son in school. It also limits the suspensions to 10 days a year and makes the school come up with other ways to deal with his behaviors. Suspending is the easy way out. It would also prevent them from sending him home to "be changed". They would have to come up with a way to deal with it at school. In other words, it makes them work WITH him to teach him what they are supposed to be teaching him. Good luck. You came to the right place for help. This site and the wonderful warrior moms here have gotten me through the worst time in my life with my sanity in place. Their advice is practical and comes from having been there done that. Welcome to the "family". I hope you stick around. [/QUOTE]
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