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It started with poop and progressed to ODD? (I'm sorry it's long)
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<blockquote data-quote="LadyJ9" data-source="post: 603644" data-attributes="member: 16720"><p>Thank you all for your feedback!! </p><p></p><p>I have read up on encopresis and was referring to my son as having it for awhile, but my husband made a good point. He requested I refrain from calling it that until he's actually diagnosed. And he came at it from the angle that it could be physical. Thus, the appointment on 8/12. I believe it may be a combination of both. My son is convinced he has an impaction, but that is more due to my over-explaining it all to him. It feels so much like a power-struggle though (along with all the other ones we have)...</p><p></p><p>Reading this, is another perfect description of my son from TeDo "<span style="color: #000000">We are working on identifying, expressing, and dealing with emotions. He is being taught social "rules", how to talk to other people, how to play with other people, how to SHARE and TAKE TURNS with other people, how other people see situations, how other people feel, etc. He has to be actively taught these things." That's something we have figured out he has troubles with-empathy, basic social "rules", things of that nature. Where as I can tell my daughter "Stop staring," when someone is in a wheelchair or has a physical deformity reminding her that they are people too and have feelings-she gets it. Treat them like anyone else and be kind. She remembers quickly and reacts quickly. My son would say, "but they still look funny. I want to see the wheelchair, " and continue to stare. That's just an example, but echoes of many other instances.</span></p><p><span style="color: #000000"></span></p><p><span style="color: #000000">I will definitely look into getting him with a neuropsychologist and Occupational Therapist (OT), but should I continue with the family counseling? I feel like the counselor is not getting anywhere with us. The last session we tried to each explain our individual problem that week with our son when he stepped out to go to the bathroom (by the way, he has began making this a habit at EVERY session), the counselor said well it seems like you are all focusing on him when this is a family issue. I'm sitting here thinking, the counseling was a RESULT of HIS threat!! We are all trying to make a change, but it "appears" our son is not. And I think it's because the counseling can't help when he can't actively participate bc he's not being understood. That whole "wired differently" thing. It is very frustrating with that.</span></p><p><span style="color: #000000"></span></p><p><span style="color: #000000">I will also, hands down, get in touch with the school about all we have to do to get the special education services going. I read about the formats and help with that in other posts here and will look back to them. I have to admit, it saddened me when towards the end of the school year, I was in the office with the assistant principal about some behavior issue with my son that day-my son was sent back to class and she says, "Well we need to look ahead to next year. We will need to find a teacher that is firm and consistent. I will put a note in the file if that is okay." I said okay, and then she goes on to say, "Well he may be removed from TAG, will that be okay?" I felt like I didn't have a choice but to say okay. He (we) were the ones causing a problem (the needs of the many outweigh the needs of the few), Soooo. Hopefully if the special education services get going, he will still gain some of the advantages he needs.</span></p><p><span style="color: #000000"></span></p><p><span style="color: #000000">Oh and we are definitely investing in that book. I've already told my husband about it and decided it was wise to become familiar with the information therein. </span></p><p><span style="color: #000000"></span></p><p><span style="color: #000000">At the end of the day, he is a charming child (like many of yours) and appears very normal, at times. I know if he could do good, he would! He has a great sense of humor loving kittens alongside super heroes, is so creative, an avid reader, and loves to be involved with everything. He also has issues that are probably sensory related. He is sensitive to loud noises (but only sometimes); does strange things like when he gets in "hyper-mode" he will smile and tuck his bottom lip under his bottom teeth (sounds weirder than it looks), but is a clue that he's not communicating like we understand. It is also a clue, he will NOT listen. Or he will walk away spinning with his arms out when we tell him to go do something specific. Often it is another clue that it won't get done. And he is explosive. From bullying behaviors like hitting, yelling or screaming out, slamming things, throwing things, and acting intimidating. There is so much!! </span></p><p><span style="color: #000000"></span></p><p><span style="color: #000000">But thanks to all of you, I feel I am in the right place and on the right path to getting him help and adding peace to all of our lives. </span></p><p><span style="color: #000000"></span></p><p><span style="color: #000000"></span><span style="color: #000000"></span></p><p><span style="color: #000000"></span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="LadyJ9, post: 603644, member: 16720"] Thank you all for your feedback!! I have read up on encopresis and was referring to my son as having it for awhile, but my husband made a good point. He requested I refrain from calling it that until he's actually diagnosed. And he came at it from the angle that it could be physical. Thus, the appointment on 8/12. I believe it may be a combination of both. My son is convinced he has an impaction, but that is more due to my over-explaining it all to him. It feels so much like a power-struggle though (along with all the other ones we have)... Reading this, is another perfect description of my son from TeDo "[COLOR=#000000]We are working on identifying, expressing, and dealing with emotions. He is being taught social "rules", how to talk to other people, how to play with other people, how to SHARE and TAKE TURNS with other people, how other people see situations, how other people feel, etc. He has to be actively taught these things." That's something we have figured out he has troubles with-empathy, basic social "rules", things of that nature. Where as I can tell my daughter "Stop staring," when someone is in a wheelchair or has a physical deformity reminding her that they are people too and have feelings-she gets it. Treat them like anyone else and be kind. She remembers quickly and reacts quickly. My son would say, "but they still look funny. I want to see the wheelchair, " and continue to stare. That's just an example, but echoes of many other instances. I will definitely look into getting him with a neuropsychologist and Occupational Therapist (OT), but should I continue with the family counseling? I feel like the counselor is not getting anywhere with us. The last session we tried to each explain our individual problem that week with our son when he stepped out to go to the bathroom (by the way, he has began making this a habit at EVERY session), the counselor said well it seems like you are all focusing on him when this is a family issue. I'm sitting here thinking, the counseling was a RESULT of HIS threat!! We are all trying to make a change, but it "appears" our son is not. And I think it's because the counseling can't help when he can't actively participate bc he's not being understood. That whole "wired differently" thing. It is very frustrating with that. I will also, hands down, get in touch with the school about all we have to do to get the special education services going. I read about the formats and help with that in other posts here and will look back to them. I have to admit, it saddened me when towards the end of the school year, I was in the office with the assistant principal about some behavior issue with my son that day-my son was sent back to class and she says, "Well we need to look ahead to next year. We will need to find a teacher that is firm and consistent. I will put a note in the file if that is okay." I said okay, and then she goes on to say, "Well he may be removed from TAG, will that be okay?" I felt like I didn't have a choice but to say okay. He (we) were the ones causing a problem (the needs of the many outweigh the needs of the few), Soooo. Hopefully if the special education services get going, he will still gain some of the advantages he needs. Oh and we are definitely investing in that book. I've already told my husband about it and decided it was wise to become familiar with the information therein. At the end of the day, he is a charming child (like many of yours) and appears very normal, at times. I know if he could do good, he would! He has a great sense of humor loving kittens alongside super heroes, is so creative, an avid reader, and loves to be involved with everything. He also has issues that are probably sensory related. He is sensitive to loud noises (but only sometimes); does strange things like when he gets in "hyper-mode" he will smile and tuck his bottom lip under his bottom teeth (sounds weirder than it looks), but is a clue that he's not communicating like we understand. It is also a clue, he will NOT listen. Or he will walk away spinning with his arms out when we tell him to go do something specific. Often it is another clue that it won't get done. And he is explosive. From bullying behaviors like hitting, yelling or screaming out, slamming things, throwing things, and acting intimidating. There is so much!! But thanks to all of you, I feel I am in the right place and on the right path to getting him help and adding peace to all of our lives. [/COLOR][COLOR=#000000] [/COLOR] [/QUOTE]
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