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<blockquote data-quote="SearchingForRainbows" data-source="post: 503931" data-attributes="member: 3388"><p>difficult child 2 used to hear me talking too no matter how hard I tried to keep him from hearing things. I basically did what you did, told difficult child 2 that he was to only talk about school related issues to all school staff, especially to his adjustment counselor (a total (w)itch!!). I also told difficult child 2 that if teachers, etc., pressed him for information, he should tell them to contact me. I told him whenever he felt uncomfortable not answering a personal question, he should tell whoever asked him the question to call his mother for the answer. I'm sure, just like you think Q will, difficult child 2 told school staff his mother told him not to tell them anything personal. This didn't matter to me. </p><p></p><p>To my surprise, this was one of the best things I could have done. difficult child 2 was comfortable not talking about anything personal once he rehearsed his standard line enough times - "I don't know, you'll have to ask my mother about this." No longer could the staff twist his words, make them into something he didn't mean. The one down side to this was that when difficult child 2 was uncomfortable, after he repeated his standard line, he would immediately begin rambling about primates. To this day, difficult child 2 uses the same coping mechanism.</p><p></p><p>I am so very sorry for Q... for you... As has been said so many times, you're a fantastic mom (an understatement!!), doing everything possible to help your son. I feel the pain, frustration, anger... and understand... Just don't have any answers but wish so much I did.</p><p></p><p>I am confident that Q is going to get what he needs. He has you on his side. Hang in there. The road ahead is a rocky one but you'll get through this. Hugs... SFR</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SearchingForRainbows, post: 503931, member: 3388"] difficult child 2 used to hear me talking too no matter how hard I tried to keep him from hearing things. I basically did what you did, told difficult child 2 that he was to only talk about school related issues to all school staff, especially to his adjustment counselor (a total (w)itch!!). I also told difficult child 2 that if teachers, etc., pressed him for information, he should tell them to contact me. I told him whenever he felt uncomfortable not answering a personal question, he should tell whoever asked him the question to call his mother for the answer. I'm sure, just like you think Q will, difficult child 2 told school staff his mother told him not to tell them anything personal. This didn't matter to me. To my surprise, this was one of the best things I could have done. difficult child 2 was comfortable not talking about anything personal once he rehearsed his standard line enough times - "I don't know, you'll have to ask my mother about this." No longer could the staff twist his words, make them into something he didn't mean. The one down side to this was that when difficult child 2 was uncomfortable, after he repeated his standard line, he would immediately begin rambling about primates. To this day, difficult child 2 uses the same coping mechanism. I am so very sorry for Q... for you... As has been said so many times, you're a fantastic mom (an understatement!!), doing everything possible to help your son. I feel the pain, frustration, anger... and understand... Just don't have any answers but wish so much I did. I am confident that Q is going to get what he needs. He has you on his side. Hang in there. The road ahead is a rocky one but you'll get through this. Hugs... SFR [/QUOTE]
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