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It went much better than I expected (difficult child at home/helping in reno)
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<blockquote data-quote="SuZir" data-source="post: 589696" data-attributes="member: 14557"><p>This second week wasn't as good than first. Still could had been much worse. He did the work, whined some, but that was to be expected. He was in the worse mood early on the week after his psychiatrist visit but was little more agreeable later. Which is good because he will leave to Tunisia with his girlfriend today for a vacation and I do hope he is in better mood there and their whole vacation isn't just arguing and being miffed with each other (I don't think their relationship is going too hotly at the moment anyway.) difficult child would need this vacation to be relaxing, not causing more stress. But it will be what it will be.</p><p></p><p>Even father in law said that Tuesday difficult child had "a little challenging day." Knowing father in law, I really don't want to know how awful difficult child was. Probably horrible. I have to give it to husband that he has admirably tried to keep his cool with difficult child this week. Haven't been easy. Haven't been easy to me either. Behaving like a jerk of course doesn't make difficult child's situation easier, but I do get that when he is so stressed and angry as he is, it may be impossible for him to be nicer. And while his attitude was bad and he whined and was negative all the time, he actually mostly did all the right things all the time. And our reno took few more big steps forward. Now it seems that it may be done before seedtime (okay, that sounds very biblical, what word really is used in English for spring time field work?) and we will not be living middle of kitchen reno whole summer and till after harvest at fall. </p><p></p><p>One thing came again very clear. difficult child will not be living home permanently ever again. I love him to come to visit. He is welcome to bunk here during transitional periods. And we are happy to make dry and warm room for his stuff he may need to storage. But he needs to live somewhere else. Even if it would in some point mean that we need to help him financially with rent etc.</p><p></p><p>I do hope I will never have to tell him that. His launch has been successful enough till now and we can hope it continues to be so. And then of course it will never be an issue. But even if he would need to come live back home again in some point, it will be only for temporarily and not longer than month or three.</p><p></p><p>It's not because he was being a jerk this week or because he could be difficult to live with. He just has grown out from his childhood room and there is no going back. And even trying it wouldn't make favours to anyone.</p><p></p><p>That of course doesn't mean that I didn't spend quite a few moments during nights when I was unable to sleep behind his door just listening him breathing and sleeping. And enjoying every second of that (Okay, that may sound rather weird, I know.)</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SuZir, post: 589696, member: 14557"] This second week wasn't as good than first. Still could had been much worse. He did the work, whined some, but that was to be expected. He was in the worse mood early on the week after his psychiatrist visit but was little more agreeable later. Which is good because he will leave to Tunisia with his girlfriend today for a vacation and I do hope he is in better mood there and their whole vacation isn't just arguing and being miffed with each other (I don't think their relationship is going too hotly at the moment anyway.) difficult child would need this vacation to be relaxing, not causing more stress. But it will be what it will be. Even father in law said that Tuesday difficult child had "a little challenging day." Knowing father in law, I really don't want to know how awful difficult child was. Probably horrible. I have to give it to husband that he has admirably tried to keep his cool with difficult child this week. Haven't been easy. Haven't been easy to me either. Behaving like a jerk of course doesn't make difficult child's situation easier, but I do get that when he is so stressed and angry as he is, it may be impossible for him to be nicer. And while his attitude was bad and he whined and was negative all the time, he actually mostly did all the right things all the time. And our reno took few more big steps forward. Now it seems that it may be done before seedtime (okay, that sounds very biblical, what word really is used in English for spring time field work?) and we will not be living middle of kitchen reno whole summer and till after harvest at fall. One thing came again very clear. difficult child will not be living home permanently ever again. I love him to come to visit. He is welcome to bunk here during transitional periods. And we are happy to make dry and warm room for his stuff he may need to storage. But he needs to live somewhere else. Even if it would in some point mean that we need to help him financially with rent etc. I do hope I will never have to tell him that. His launch has been successful enough till now and we can hope it continues to be so. And then of course it will never be an issue. But even if he would need to come live back home again in some point, it will be only for temporarily and not longer than month or three. It's not because he was being a jerk this week or because he could be difficult to live with. He just has grown out from his childhood room and there is no going back. And even trying it wouldn't make favours to anyone. That of course doesn't mean that I didn't spend quite a few moments during nights when I was unable to sleep behind his door just listening him breathing and sleeping. And enjoying every second of that (Okay, that may sound rather weird, I know.) [/QUOTE]
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